Watch Out! THIS Is How Narcissists Act After a Break-Up!

Separating hurts, and narcissists play to win. This winning can take a variety of forms. In a professional context, they make unsuspecting employees jump through burning hoops and get them to do the work that is actually their job.

Privately, narcissists always define their victories according to similar patterns: they select certain people, ensnare them, engage in excessive lovebombing, and thus bring them into their world. Once there, they are first "devalued" and then successively isolated from family and friends.

They are supposed to belong to the narcissist all by themselves and play solely by his rules. Only rarely do narcissists seek a separation of their own accord. They enjoy the power they have over their victims far too much. And their partners become nothing else over time.

If they manage to free themselves from the clutches of this relationship hell, the real battle is yet to come. Giving up is not part of the vocabulary of narcissists. If they had feelings, they would be deeply hurt. So it is mainly their pride and vanity that have been offended.

Such an affront is not without consequences. In this article we’ll show you what you have to reckon with if you break up with a narcissist.

They promise you the moon.

Narcissists can tell the difference between when we're just threatening a breakup and when it's really on the table. They will respond to empty threats with insults and belittling comments. Sentences such as "then leave" or "you're nothing without me, you'll see" will then come up.

If, on the other hand, the partner is serious and has perhaps already packed his or her bags, narcissists are not afraid to take on the role of beggar and supplicant. They try everything they can not to lose their toy. Flowery promises and vows of improvement are fixed components of this program. A manipulator is nothing without his victims.

If you have decided to leave your toxic relationship behind, it is best to break off all contact. Narcissists pull out all the stops to avoid losing their favorite pastime. They will say anything, but you should not believe them.

Love bombing starts again.

Some narcissists skip this phase. In fact, it does not require much effort, time and money. But some are so attached to the laboriously built relationship construct, people are not their concern, that they actually pull out all the stops once again.

Gifts, flowers, love letters, romantic text messages and surprise visits to the workplace or new place of residence, are among them. Quite a few plunge into outright expense, once again in all clarity. None of this has anything to do with you.

You as a person, partner or human being with feelings and needs are all the same to the narcissist. He wants his world back and in it you are part of his inventory or entertainment. Toxic people, as far as their strategies are concerned, are thankfully simple-minded. Once you have seen through mechanisms like excessive courting, even this gambit leads nowhere.

You are dead to them.

A narcissist rarely chooses this option, but if you are lucky, his pride is so deeply wounded that you no longer exist for him. Sometimes family and friends also scare him off if you seek contact with them again and never completely gave up despite his efforts.

In the best case, as cynical as it may sound, he already has a replacement for you at hand. Sometimes, however, complete radio silence is just the calm before the storm. The narcissist licks his wounds and thinks about his next moves.

Telephone terror and stalking.

When vows of love, full-bodied promises, and expensive gifts have not worked, anger takes control of the narcissist's flawless facade. They then show their true colors.

The good news is that going through with the breakup should at least be emotionally easier in the face of abuse, threats, and being waylaid at every turn.

The bad news, in this age of social media and cell phone tracking, it's easy to terrorize your fellow man on multiple levels. The legal situation has since been improved as far as stalking is concerned, but unfortunately there is no real protection against the madness that can boil up in wounded narcissists.

A first important step would be to get a new cell phone and deactivate your social media accounts. She or he will otherwise always know where you are, what you are doing and with whom. For a while it will be necessary to disappear from the scene, some manipulators will eventually lose interest.

They take on the role of victim.

If there is one thing toxic contemporaries are brilliant at, it is delegating blame and taking the victim role. Even during your relationship, they twisted facts to suit their whims and created their own truth. They don't stop doing that after a breakup; on the contrary, you shouldn't be surprised if suddenly reputation-damaging rumors start doing the rounds that don't put you in a good light.

Experienced manipulators have mastered the art of character assassination. They won't stop at your family and friends, nor will they stop at your workplace. Separating from a narcissist may leave no stone unturned in your life. Those who know you will not give a damn about such nasty accusations anyway.

Another tactic to win you back will be based on emotional blackmail. They will threaten to harm themselves if you leave them. Do not take these verbal grenades seriously. If it makes you feel better, inform the police of this suicidal intent. A patrol in uniform at your front door can do wonders, spontaneous recovery from heartbreak and suicidal thoughts included.

They want to make you jealous.

Many ex-partners resort to this tactic out of sheer desperation. Narcissists also think that you might change your mind when you see them side by side with new conquests. Or they might want to show you what you're missing.

Either way, you certainly had plenty of good reasons to break up. The new better halves should actually be warned and pitied, you don't have to feel threatened by them at all. This mind game is pathetic, easy to see through and should cost you a tired smile at most, but certainly not sleepless nights.

Today’s Conclusion:

Close the door and don't look back. A breakup is never easy. Breaking up with a narcissist will be especially challenging. They consider you their property and will not let you go so easily. Be sure to prepare well for this step. Get friends and family members on board and keep contact with your ex to a minimum afterwards.

If he or she asks you to meet, refuse consistently. If you can't avoid it, for example because legal or financial matters still need to be clarified, never meet with them alone. They are only strong when they call you weak. Show them your teeth and the newly awakened side in you. If narcissists find one thing unattractive in people, it is strength. That's it for today.