Warning Signs That Someone Is Pretending to Like You!
Playing with other people's feelings and hopes is not a trivial matter. Such games may be likened more to manipulation of others than to harmless pleasure at the expense of others. Life requires us to have interpersonal contact, not all of which we can choose. But watch out for people who spontaneously give you a gut feeling or make your hair stand on end. This is where your intuition speaks for itself, and it can spot false posturing and fake smiles in the blink of an eye. In this article, we will show you how you can also tell that someone is only faking their affection for you.
1. Your gut instinct rebels in their presence
Our reliable inner compass, our intuition, literally cries out in the presence of fake friends. Hardly anything is more distasteful to our sensitive antennas than feigned friendliness and fake affection. Anyone who gives you an ambiguous feeling is almost certainly playing a double game with you.
2. They are talking behind your back
As soon as you learn from a reliable source that a person is spreading rumors and gossip about you, stay away from them. Such ambitions are evidence of bad character and definitely not of someone who actually means well for you.
3. They always manage to make you feel bad
Fake friends always appear obviously well-meaning and obliging. They shower us with compliments, but at second glance they leave a bitter aftertaste. Such people are masters at indirectly insulting us or otherwise making us feel inferior and inadequate.
4. Your success is a thorn in their side
True friends are happy when you are happy. The fake ones are happy when you fall flat on your face and your plans fall apart. Jealousy is the component from which this kind of friendship or even love is woven. It is a clear sign that someone does not wish you all the best, but the exact opposite.
5. They see you as competition
This circumstance, too, would never play a role in the context of genuine affection. If someone likes a person from the bottom of their heart, they only wish that person the very best. If, on the other hand, somebody watches every move with a wary eye, just so as not to fall behind, they do not have pure intentions. Love and friendship are not playing fields for sporting and other competitions. Here, the principle of equality reigns, and ego never wins.
6. Their compliments seem exaggerated and overstated
Praise and recognition are two different things. Everyone appreciates it in general. Some people need confirmation from a third party, but are also desperate for it, and prefer constant praise. If a compliment is appropriate, we can simply accept it. We may blush, but inwardly we are very happy. However, if such praise sounds as if a toddler or a puppy is being addressed, it does not come from the heart, but from a strategical act by a not-so-smart mastermind.
7. Your interests are not of interest
Those who like us want to get to know us better. Even friendships that have lasted for decades always offer room to discover new things about each other. If, on the other hand, you seem to be only the audience, but never the person in the spotlight, there is no real affection here and no prospect of it either.
8. They contact you only when it's convenient for them
A good friend will always be happy to just give you a call and ask how you're doing. The wrong ones, on the other hand, always pursue their own plans and you are at most a means to an end.
9. Fancy words are not followed by deeds
Among other things, you can recognize dishonest individuals by their empty promises. If someone enters your social circle who never follows up on flowery promises with concrete action, don't reserve a spot at your table for them and their empty chatter. It's not difficult to come up with nice words. To really step up to the plate and follow up with action, on the other hand, requires effort and expenditure. Either you are worth it, or you know the opposite is true for this relationship.
10. Expressions and gestures appear tense and controlled
A fixed smile, arms crossed tightly in front of the chest, feet almost stepping on each other's toes, and a whole body that looks like it's being remote-controlled. This is how our intuition perceives a lying baron or a fairy-tale princess when these subjects stand before us. Body language is the only one that cannot lie. Be sure to remember this for the future. Those who act as if by script have a lot to hide, but nothing authentic to say.
11. Their tone of voice changes when they talk to you
In addition to body language, our mood is also impossible to conceal when it comes to deception. Perhaps you have already noticed it in yourself when you have to talk to or speak on the phone with people who are unpleasant to you. As if by itself, our voice immediately changes a few pitches upward to show no trace of displeasure or resentment. Cloying speech and excessive chatter should give you pause for thought when directed at you. Incidentally, this is where the idiom of praising a person highly or to the heavens originates.
12. Everything seems to be carefully calculated
Friendship and love cannot be forced into a box or a schedule. However, if there is an acquaintance in your life who runs strictly according to plan and leaves nothing to chance, you should exercise caution. Here, it is clearly calculation that rules, not affection.
Today's Conclusion: Sympathy without value added
Beware of overly nice, overly enthusiastic people or those who constantly change their opinions and tone of voice. If you suddenly feel that you can't trust someone and their intentions, you're probably right. After all, liking us and pretending to like us are as different as night and day. If someone really cares about us, they won't have to make a big show or demonstrate staged emotional outbursts. Those who truly care will show you with actions rather than words. That's it for today. Thanks very much and see you soon.