Clear Signals Someone Is Jealous of You! Can You Spot It?
Basically, it is a compliment when someone looks at us and our successes with envy. As the saying goes: pity is a gift, envy has to be earned! Nevertheless, it is not a nice feeling when some people regard us as a kind of enemy image. We are already somewhat used to the fact that not everyone is happy with us when we are really good at something, when we are on the winning horse, or when we are on the road to success. But jealousy, which can take on bizarre forms, is a trait that has caused a lot of damage in the course of human history. Yet it is a pointless emotion, because: There will always be people who are more beautiful, more popular, more successful or more powerful than we are. We'll show you 7 clear signs that someone is jealous of you in this article.
1. Gossiping behind your back
A penchant for gossip basically does not characterize kind and gracious people. Of course, there are nuances between office hallway gossip and what the English mean by devil’s radio. But it is certainly never a fine trait to gossip about someone. The jealous have to go somewhere with their pent-up feelings of frustration and envy. Therefore, they are constantly on the lookout for like-minded people to be co-conspirators. Soon you will be told that person X or Y is forging alliances against you behind your back. So at least you will know from which direction the cold wind of rejection and hostility is blowing. Pay attention here to the origins of such dirt campaigns against you. It doesn't hurt to confront people with the fact that you are aware of their toxic comments. It's often only a stone's throw from these to slander or defamation. And jealousy is a very powerful motive that can quickly soften the boundaries of civility and morality.
2. Your accomplishments are talked down to
A sure sign of jealousy is belittling the achievements of others. No matter what field you've excelled in, there will always be someone who doesn't understand the hype around it at all and thinks they could do better than you. This behavior is quite typical of envy and resentment and can occur in both private and professional contexts. The bad thing about this form of envy is that every one of these top comments will get stuck somewhere in your head. Not only does it deprive you of the well-deserved joy of your success, but it also sows the seeds of doubt within you. Maybe you really aren't that good. Maybe it was just a flash in the pan. As soon as we start taking these critical voices at face value, even if only subconsciously, we are unsettled and in the dark about whether our path is the right one.
3. Backhanded compliments
Some people just have a knack for packaging insults as compliments and praise. For example, if you're happy about a promotion or a big jump in your career, this ill-tempered contemporary will follow up with a comment like, "Congratulations. I wouldn't have thought that they would take someone with so little experience." Or they will immediately evoke failure. "That's good for you. Now you just have to prove yourself in the long run." Such threatening statements can take the wind out of the sails of the strongest self-confidence. And once again, we find out in such situations who our true friends are. You'll probably be able to count on one hand the people who are genuinely happy for you and with you.
4. They literally stalk you
The chronically jealous sometimes live by the Roman motto: "Hold your friends close, your enemies closer." Some develop a real obsession and want to find out everything about their object of envy. They stalk their antiheroes on social media and also in real life. They want to find out everything about you, really everything. They listen in on your friends and colleagues, love to eavesdrop on your conversations, and soon have a master plan that has only one goal: not to let you out of their sight. This is where the lines between admiration and envy become blurred. A ridiculous jealousy develops into a real obsession that can take on morbid traits.
5. False friends offer themselves to you
If they want to know everything about you and at the same time are green with envy when they think about you, they can also develop another strategy, which is no less creepy than stalking. Many people recognize the potential that proximity to successful people holds for them. Chances are good for them to get a few rays of sunshine as well, basking in the light of these successful people, beautiful and powerful. Jealousy then turns these people into opportunists of the first order. For a few breadcrumbs from your golden plate, they would walk over dead bodies. They appear friendly to you and almost a little submissive. However, you should not ignore the bared teeth behind their smiles. These characters are driven by envy and resentment. And at the first opportunity, they'll pull the chair out from under you.
6. Blatant hatred is directed at you
There are also honest enviers and those who cannot hide their deep feelings for you. Probably this type of jealousy is the hardest and easiest at the same time. After all, here the cards are quite open on the table. She or he eventually becomes the victim of exuberant feelings and gives himself up to ridicule. Especially in the workplace, however, such dramatic incidents and unworthy actors are a problem for everyone involved. On the one hand, there are suddenly 2 fronts openly showing themselves, forcing all other employees to choose sides. On the other hand, you will be blamed for these intolerable conditions. Depending on how well your jealous enemy is networked with the executive floor, such jealousy scenes can unfortunately also be the undoing of your career. There's not much you can do about it. Once jealousy is sparked, there's nothing you can do about it.
7. Pure gloating shows
This trait is often found in people who unfortunately have nothing to be proud of. Schadenfreude is altogether a disgusting trait of sourpusses, who display their negative feelings and at the same time their lack of intelligence quite blatantly. To rejoice when someone suffers a misfortune or mishap is a sign of baseness in its worst form.
Today’s Conclusion: Jealousy creates suffering
There is no therapy for jealousy, no cure and no good coaxing that can free people who have been afflicted by this dark force. It is one of the worst emotional prisons we can end up in. We can only fight this evil at its root. Because envy begins where we compare ourselves with others. Or as Georg Wilhelm Exler said: "Comparison is the death of happiness". That's it for today.