CAUTION! THESE People Rob YOU of YOUR Strength and Vitality!
Anyone who has had experience with toxic relationships knows that there is hardly a type of person who does a better job of making you feel drained just by being there. This is because most toxic relationships begin differently. The closer the relationship and thus the greater the likelihood that one will unceremoniously cut someone out of one's close environment, the more likely it is that a toxic person will show his or her true colors. Often with dire consequences for one's own health, especially mental health. Weakening self-confidence and detachment from friends and family are just some of the extreme consequences such relationships can bring. In this article, we'll introduce you to six types of people who drain your energy and who you shouldn't have in your close circle of friends or family, either in the short or long term.
1. Selfish or conceited people.
A selfish person is someone who wants to fulfill their own aspirations at any cost. In doing so, no consideration is given to others; egoism is to be distinguished from a healthy self-confidence. Whenever you meet people with whom you cannot get rid of the subliminal feeling that they are taking advantage of you, you should think hard about whether this is a selfish egoist. You also have to be careful with conceited people who are so convinced of themselves that no one in their environment is good enough for them. Next to egoists, it is not uncommon to feel invisible. Because selfish people lack the empathy it takes to empathize with others, they tend to put themselves above others,
2. People who always have to be better than you.
You tell an acquaintance about a professional success, an achievement in your recreational sport, or a new friendship. If the answer to this is not recognition, but rather envy, you can assume that you have come across a so-called One-Upper. This type of person always has to rise above others. He wants to be the best, fastest and biggest everywhere and brags about his successes. If he has to fib about his successes, he will put up with it in order not to have to give up his pole position. One-Uppers are afraid of being perceived as weak or unimportant. Attention is certain for them and exactly what they want. It makes them feel superior. It's an exhausting game that this personality type plays. Their boastful streak tempts them to constantly put themselves above you in order to ramp up their own satisfaction.
3. Manipulative people
Especially dangerous for shy people are personalities whose middle name is manipulation. Convincing others of something comes extremely easily to them. They are real charmers when it comes down to it. Have you ever been wrapped around the little finger of a manipulative person? In the situation itself you usually don't notice it. They speak to you with the tongues of angels, compliment you and thus manage to gain your trust. As soon as they have that for sure, all means are valid in their attempt to convince you of their own viewpoints. If you don't act immediately, manipulative people become angry and ice-cold within seconds. This blatant transformation is not infrequently frightening to watch. The tactics manipulative people use to influence you often vary. Gradually, they take control of your emotions, behavior, and relationships. A friendship or even a romantic relationship with a manipulative person is extremely tiring. Depression and anxiety disorders can often be consequences of manipulation.
4. Gossipy people.
Everyone has done it, maybe even when the person it was about was in the same room. But actually, our common sense already tells us that it is not right to talk badly about others. Sometimes we can't help it because we feel like someone is intentionally trying to get a rise out of us. But if you have someone in your circle of friends who often turns to you to talk badly about others, perhaps even people close to you, all alarm bells should be ringing. It doesn't take a psychologist to empathize with the person close to you who finds out you've been talking badly about them. Your self-esteem drops dramatically. Especially when rumors are started, for example, to increase drama in a circle of people, be careful. The most important thing to always keep in mind here is this: If the person is talking badly about others to you, be sure that they are talking just as badly about you to the people they are badmouthing to you.
5. Dissatisfied people.
Discontent doesn't get us; it's not healthy for our health or well-being. Being perpetually unhappy with everything and not feeling gratitude for the things we have makes us grouchy. You know those people who feel like they get off on the wrong foot every day, complaining about every little thing? They slip into the victim role and complain about their apartment being too small, their salary being too low, and supposedly unjustified arguments with their partner. Every friendship goes through such phases, because things don’t always go well for us all the time. But permanently dissatisfied people spread negativity, which shapes our own mood and influences our own inner attitude. At the latest when you start to transfer the negative statements of a particularly unhappy person to your own life, you should draw a line,
6. Compulsive liar
From childhood, our parents teach us that lying is bad and hurts those around us. Whenever we lie, potential trouble arises depending on the reason and degree of our lie, which is why most people refrain from telling extended tall tales, except for small white lies. Some people tend to puff up their lives with the help of lies. They seem almost addicted to their own constructs of lies and hold on to them. Someone who is often lucky in most cases also has no problem with it and perceives lying as not bad. Contact with liars is difficult, even if you already know their behavioral patterns It is best not to give liars the chance to interfere too much in your life in the first place
Today’s Conclusion:
None of the above personality types add any real value to your life. It is no loss to leave such a person behind. Without any doubt, it is difficult to break off contact overnight with long-time friends who now turn out to be manipulative or particularly unhappy. In individual cases, clarifying conversations can certainly help. Some people with fatiguing personality types are not even aware of what they are doing with their behavior. Perhaps changes can be noticed after some time. But if no discussion helps, do your mental health a favor and go your life way without such life-energy robbing people. That's it for today.