Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Be pleasantly surprised by yourself! The pressure to perform and the constant comparison with others lead to the fact that we are no longer sufficient for ourselves. We are constantly haunted by the feeling that we are underachieving and that we are not getting everything done as we would like.

Probably no one is as critical of us as we are of ourselves and our performance. It's good to want to do our best, and it spurs us on. But we shouldn't let this constant competition drive us crazy. Even if it seems to you that everyone around you can juggle more balls in the air at the same time, and can feign adulthood more confidently than you: It's pretty much not true.

We would therefore like to praise you and encourage you to give yourself a big pat on the back. Things are going much better for you than you might think. The following 10 signs speak for it.

You want to be a better person.

As long as we have ambitious goals, we haven't taken a wrong turn. It's always a good sign when we question ourselves, even if this laudable endeavor can quickly turn into the opposite. Self-reflection is good; self-criticism does more harm than good.

Anyone who leaves the house every day with the firm intention to do good for people and to prove themselves a helpful, useful member of society is not doing much wrong. Most of the time, it's the hardworking and striving ones anyway, who constantly want to do even better and make the world a nicer place for everyone.

The responsibility is yours alone.

This realization is not nice, but it comes with growing up. There comes a time when there is something to be done, we look around and there is no one but us to take over this to-do list, we are called upon. Some people have to shoulder the dignity of responsibility early in life. Still others shirk it for as long as possible.

Recognizing that we can take the blame for mistakes, but also the credit for successes, makes us mature people. Those who can come to terms with this are confident players on the stage of life.

Your ego deserves a break.

It can be our best friend and our worst enemy in equal parts. Ego, you have it or you don't. However, self-love is rarely fairly distributed. What we often have too much of when we're young, we lack over time, and vice versa. Some people are brimming with self-confidence and consider themselves the crown of creation.

For others, a little more self-interest would do them good. If you know when to hit the pause button on your ego and when to give it the green light, you're on the home stretch.

Balance is a must.

Life at the adult table sometimes pushes us in a certain direction. We then either become just the dedicated careerists, the total family people, or the holdouts who don't want to fit into any scheme. There are few niches in this rigid construct that are still the product of centuries-old thought patterns.

Those who get carried away with extremes, however, miss out on important building blocks that ultimately make life a colorful mix of fun and responsibility, adventure and safety net. Seek and find balance in everything you do. Defining your personal work-life balance for yourself, for example, would be a good start.

You nurture your passions.

What would life be without the spark that makes our heart beat faster and our soul rejoice. The things we ignite for say a lot about us. They are the little luxuries in between and the freestyle that we are allowed to indulge in after the compulsory program.

Those who are not passionate about anything, or who consider these passions too unimportant and childish to keep them up in adulthood, are probably missing out on the best things in life. Like every lifeline on our hand and every little wrinkle on our face, our passions tell a story about us. Don't let it be forgotten.

Not everyone gets a place in your life.

A highly visible sign that you have a firm grip on your life is who’s at the table to celebrate it. In childhood and adolescence, we quickly find others good and interesting. We open the doors to our homes and hearts to them. Those who have once trusted the wrong people here will do well to dispense with this experience.

It has nothing to do with snobbery, or a selective view of the world, if you take care over the years to keep your "inner circle" small and refined. The school of life then speaks for you and it has fulfilled its pedagogical mission.

Falling down is not a disgrace, staying down is.

Nobody likes to lose or to be left behind, but the downs are part of life. Otherwise, where would the victories be? Every halfway adult knows that the sun doesn't shine all the time for anyone. Defeats are there to be overcome. The confident face them with courage and confidence and look forward to the lesson they may learn from them.

Trends pass you by without a trace.

The fast pace of our modern age brings new trends, currents and fads into the world virtually every second. Even the best-informed only manage to follow this dictate to some extent. Those who are really mentally firmly in the saddle, however, tend not to care about such things. Neither fashion, nor other areas, which produce such short-lived beacons interest the strong among us. Quality goes before quantity and what they don't have, they don't need.

You don't take everything at face value.

Healthy skepticism and caution are important tools on the way to a safe and successful life. You question things, especially those that are advertised to you in flashy colors. A good product doesn't need advertising. It speaks for you and your lifestyle if you don't believe everything and everyone.

You finally know what you don't want.

Many adults are struggling with themselves and the world, because too many options are open to the. This development is called "fomo", fear of missing out. We are afraid of missing out on something, maybe even the best. How reassuring it is to at least reach a point where we know what we don't want or no longer want.

This is where we learn from harm, but also where life experience and advancing age pay off. Once you have arrived at this source of knowledge, you have already achieved an incredible amount.

Today’s Conclusion:

Better is the enemy of the good. You may be familiar with this saying. It's not meant to stop us from working on ourselves and self-optimization. But it should warn us against wanting more than would be good for us. If you can come to terms with what you have achieved and live well with it, you can sit back and enjoy your success. Things are going well for us when we are truly happy and not just wishfully thinking. That's it for today.