You’ll Be Surprised by What You Can Find Out by Looking Into Someone’s Eyes!
The eyes are the mirror to our soul. We've long known that looking into someone's eyes can tell us a lot about them. It's no coincidence that we always value eye contact in conversation, whether it's in a professional or private setting. If someone constantly avoids our eyes, that person has something to hide. At least that's what we assume. The feeling of joy is also literally written all over our faces. In fact, a person's eyes tell us a lot more about what they are thinking. Especially in terms of what they are thinking about us. In this article, we will give you a brief insight into the power of looking into someone’s eyes.
1. Our eyes speak of love.
Well, they are at least very clear when it comes to desire and sexual attraction. If we find the person we are talking to attractive, a biological process is initiated in our body for which we are completely powerless to stop, even in the twenty-first century. Evolution and all its quirks remain deeply embedded in our genes. When we see a potential partner with whom we could imagine being sexually intimate with, our body immediately goes on the offensive. As is well known, this language is universal and once it has begun, such non-verbal communication can no longer be stopped. What happens next? Our pupil begin to dilate as we realize we like what we see and would like to get closer to this person. Hormones are once again responsible for this momentary reflex. To be more precise, the pleasure hormone known as dopamine is mainly to blame. With eager anticipation of what could happen next, our brain is flooded with this hormone. One of the side effects of this is highly visible, our pupils dilate. A practical side effect: if we want to know how well we are received by the other side on a date, take a deep look into their eyes. The larger the black centers of the pupils are, the better our chances.
2. Looks can lie.
The second thing we can read pretty easily from the eyes of our fellow human beings is lying. There are several ways a lie is created in our head and put out into the world. The reason for this: When we speak, we access different areas of our brain. Some are responsible for memories and others for creativity. The second of these functions is when we create pure myths in our heads and then sell such stories to others as truth. The direction of our eye movement is crucial.
A: Dilated pupils: Yes, unfortunately they do not only represent sexual desire, but sometimes they can also be an indication that we are being lied to. However, this should be self-explanatory from the context of the conversation and circumstances alone.
B: The gaze wanders to the upper right: This part of the brain is where the creative work is being done. We can think of it as a factory in which many made up stories are being ingeniously created. If a someone’s gaze wanders to the top right during a conversation with us, we can assume that the beautiful words coming out of their mouth are very likely not true.
C: The gaze wanders to the top left: visual memory is located on the opposite side of our brain. We use this when we want to retrieve images from the past. If someone turns their gaze to the top left during a conversation, they are trying to remember what really happened. Their words are therefore more likely to be the truth than a lie, subject to the fact that memory can, of course, always deceive us.
D: The gaze wanders to the left: Here is where our audio memory is used, the part of our brain that is responsible for what is heard and said. A person who strains this part of their brain when talking is trying to recall a particular conversation or other source that falls within the realm.
E: The gaze wanders to the right: This is the part of our brain where sounds are creatively constructed. Our brains are even capable of creating a memory of something we've never heard.Someone may convincingly pretend that they heard a conversation, an order from the boss, or a recording, when actually they didn't. They then admmantly tell others what they heard, with their eyes probably wandering to the right again and again throughout the conversation.
Q: The Lower Left Gaze: We engage in an internal dialogue with ourselves when our gaze drifts left and downwards during dialogue with others. It is safe to think of this as a state of restlessness and confusion. How else would we need the backing of our own judgment and additional advice from within? People who take on this demeanor while in conversation tend to be feeling a little torn and at a loss.
G: Looking down to the right: Amazingly, there is even a small memory palace in our head for our feelings. We are recalling this when we lower our gaze to the bottom right during a conversation with others. We re-experience our feelings, or at least a specific feeling that is likely linked to a situation from the past.
3. Face to face with fear.
Fear, probably the most unpleasant of all feelings, is literally written all over our faces. Here, too, our pupils dilate and our field of vision opens up as much as possible. This reaction stems from a time when fight or flight responses frequently meant the difference between life and death. The more information we could gather about the threat situation in a fraction of a second, the better our chances of survival would be. Interesting, according to studies the white part of our counterpart’s eye can instill fear in us. We owe this knowledge to an article in the renowned specialist journal "Numbers", written by Professor Paul Wahlen from the University of Wisconsin. The conclusion: when feeling fear, a certain area in our brain, the amygdala, is kickstarted into overdrive. A higher amount of white in the other person’s eyes puts the entire body on alert within fractions of a second. Our brain’s smart amygdala needs no more information than this to recognize a potential threat.
Today’s Conclusion:
A look can say more than a thousand words. All of these theories are partially scientifically proven, but of course the following always applies: We are talking about people, not machines. In a dialogue with our fellow human beings, the spoken word is only a small part of the communication that actually takes place. Body language is of enormous importance too, which also includes our eyes. But also noteworthy are the voice and intonation. The way in which we are spoken to is sometimes much more important than the words that are said. When your intuition and gut feel are sounding the alarm, listen to them. That's it for today. Thank you and see you soon.