How to Know If Someone Is Secretly in Love With You!
Interpersonal interaction is not always easy. We learn early in life that not all of our feelings are meant for or well received by the outside world. The fear of embarrassment or rejection is pervasive and, regrettably, does not abate as we grow up and become adults. If we have a crush on someone, it is sometimes particularly difficult to know whether our feelings are reciprocated or not. Especially when we are friends with these people or have to work together, we prefer to risk nothing rather than everything. We then adore and admire our crush from a safe distance as a precaution. In this article, we will show you how you can tell if someone secretly has feelings for you.
1. They actively seek your presence
When we are in love, we want to spend every minute of the day in the presence of our loved one. Not only do deep feelings play a part in this, but evolution also has something to do with it. Our body longs for contact with the object of our desire and we use every opportunity that presents itself to somehow make closeness and touch possible. Some people prove to be quite resourceful in doing so and blithely reach into every bag of tricks that brings them closer to their sweetheart. Many standards and rules make it difficult in this day and age to just drop in on someone for no reason at all. Besides, we are analog protagonists in a digital world. Who still voluntarily goes from office to office or house door to house door today when they can just as easily send a text message via the countless channels available? This form of personal contact probably seems suspicious to us sooner than the people seeking our proximity would like.
2. They remember even the little things
If you are in love, you pay attention to every detail and don't want to miss anything that has to do with the man or woman of your dreams. If there is a person in your environment who remembers every anecdote you tell and even asks you about your visit to the dentist and other not exactly earth-shattering things, then increased interest is at play. This person is keeping an eye on you, probably because they've had their eye on you. It takes a bit of effort to really and truly get to know a person. And this is where the wheat is separated from the chaff. Someone who is sincerely devoted to us wants to find out as much as possible about us. They want to rejoice with us, but also do not shy away from suffering and willingly shares it with us. Love always pays attention to details. On the other hand, anyone who doesn't think it's worth the effort to ask you how you're doing or even doesn't have important things to share with you, doesn't care about you.
3. They ask you all kinds of questions
A dialog in this day and age is usually the exact opposite, a monologue; end uncertain and unforeseeable. Many people seem to have to take every opportunity they can to make their opinions known or to go on tour with their life stories. We are almost no longer used to someone asking questions in the context of a conversation and seeming genuinely interested in us. Not so when someone is secretly in love with us. This person wants to know absolutely everything about us. No detail from our life is uninteresting or can be neglected in their opinion. You will pretty much notice it if you don't meet such a candidate. Whether someone is just curious and indiscreet or really has the heartfelt desire to get to know you better, you can tell by the eyes. A deep look says more than 1000 words. And honest interest is very easy to distinguish from eagerness for gossip.
4. They defend you
Now it becomes romantic and at the same time warlike. This reaction clearly speaks of our biology and our purpose to defend our tribe, our clan and our loved ones at all costs. Those who protect you and stand up for you in the face of hostility have a genuine interest in your well-being. By the way, this technique works without any words at all. Pay attention when men protectively hold their hand against a woman's back. They don't have to touch her at all, the mere gesture is enough. It is a thoroughly archaic reaction to situations in which the partner or sweetheart is in a state of uncertainty. And, of course, the whole thing works the other way around. Women put their hands on their husbands' arms or likewise embrace their backs when the situation instinctively calls for cohesion. The fact is: If someone stands up for you, you are important to them. Standing up for yourself and against everyone else takes courage and perseverance. Neither comes easily to us, unless of course our heart strongly encourages us to do so.
5. Your paths cross constantly
Call it chance, fate or strategy. How, why and for what reason it happens is almost unimportant. The fact is, someone who is in love with us can't help but consistently seek our closeness. This can be brought about quite consciously, but it can also actually be due to the unconscious. Of course, we find the idea particularly beautiful and romantic that higher powers are at work here and want to bring together what they believe belongs together. When we love, we grow wings and unimagined forces within us are released. We can then literally move mountains and walk over burning coals. Nothing is too difficult or even impossible for someone who loves.
Today's Conclusion: Love never gives up
Being secretly in love is usually no fun. We constantly struggle with our feelings and check every feedback to see if there is a chance of love in return. Every part of us wants to be with this person, preferably 24 hours a day. It can take a long time until we finally get up the nerve to confess our feelings to our beloved. Often we instinctively realize that it would not be a good idea and that we would destroy more than we would gain. But sometimes we get lucky and Cupid miraculously paves the way for us. That's it for today. Thanks very much and see you soon.