WHY Highly Sensitive People Are Often a Magnet for Energy Vampires!
People who are highly sensitive often don’t have it easy. Due to a much stronger and pronounced perceptive faculty, they perceive impressions, moods, other people or even sounds much more intensively. It’s much harder for them to switch off, which is draining.
Therefore, social contacts are sometimes very difficult for people with high sensitivity to maintain. In this article we’ll explain why this is so and why people with high sensitivity are often a magnet for energy vampires.
First of all, highly sensitive people have a strong desire to help others. They are often seen as a so-called complaint box and go out of their way to help those around them. In many cases, these efforts to be there for others are so strong that the highly sensitive person gets more involved in the other person's problems than the other person does.
So it can happen that people with high sensitivity have sleepless nights because they’re thinking about how they can solve the problems of others. Sometimes the other person doesn't want to accept the help either, and this triggers a feeling of frustration in highly sensitive people because they are used to solving problems. The price that many highly sensitive people pay is often reflected in symptoms such as headaches, sleep problems, lack of energy and fatigue.
Highly sensitive people also see the potential in a person, the good core, so to speak. They tend to be co-dependent and think they have to rescue others from their predicament. All this can result in highly sensitive people not paying attention to their needs, and it is much harder for them to set boundaries. All this makes them vulnerable to so-called energy vampires. But what are energy vampires anyway?
Energy vampires are people who literally steal the energy of others and weaken people in the long run. They are manipulative and try to influence others to their advantage, they are envious and jealous and often do not allow others their pleasure and do not accept outside opinions. They are very demanding, always want you to have time for them and their problems.
They want advice, but do not follow it. They always want to be right, they tend to mob others out of jealousy, they see themselves and their problems as the center of things and have little understanding when others are in need. Yet although active protagonists in the social sphere, energy vampires are not always immediately recognizable. Therefore, it is of immense importance to listen to your gut feeling.
One's intuition always alerts us with an uneasy feeling that something is wrong in the relationship with a person. So if highly sensitive people feel drained, anxious or under pressure in the presence of some people, they may be dealing with energy vampires. Now let's look at the most common types of energy vampires
1. The argumentative
There are indeed people who are constantly involved in conflicts with other people, these people are constantly complaining or always have something to complain about or feel they are being treated unfairly. This type is constantly looking for confrontation, only to spark a loud discussion. A real energy hog.
2. The complainer
This type of person always finds a reason why something doesn't work or won't work, so this type will try to talk you out of everything and advise you not to do this or that. Frequent comments from naggers are, this is much too unsafe, there are already enough of them doing this, you will never be able to earn enough money with it, are you sure that you meet the requirements.
That will certainly be exhausting. Of course such statements are extremely discouraging and can lead to the fact that a highly sensitive person gives up his project or does not start it at all, nagging people do not want you to change. They would then be confronted with their own perceived inadequacy, their own unfulfilled dreams that they dare not realize.
3. Passive aggressive people
Putting things off, dawdling or making excuses, like: Oh, I forgot all about that. Are strategies of passive aggressive people to avoid obligations or to let someone down.
Passively aggressive people are seemingly well-meaning and eager, promising a lot and delivering nothing, not giving direct answers or having vague answers like: I'll get back to you. They just don't do what they said or promised, or you have to keep reminding them of agreements. That takes energy.
4. The victim
People who present themselves as victims are equally energy vampires but often difficult to recognize. The typical victim is a person who can spend hours complaining about life. These people need the help of a highly sensitive person.
Someone who is comfortable in the victim role knows full well that highly sensitive people want to help them because they care about the well-being of others. For example, with victim energy vampires, conversations go around in circles for hours, which is really draining.
5. Narcissists
Narcissists are probably the best known, but also the most dangerous of all energy vampires. Narcissists are so dangerous because they lack any empathy, people in their environment fulfill only one purpose for them, to be of use to them.
If this benefit falls away, the respective person is dropped from one day to the next. Narcissists are only interested in their own greatness and this happens very often through the devaluation of others or even their own partner. Unfortunately, especially highly sensitive people are attracted to narcissists, especially all their relationships are often initially perceived as particularly fascinating.
The extreme, seemingly affectionate attention and love affirmation that narcissists display in the initial phase of a relationship are absorbed like a sponge. The needy inner child, who has never received enough love and feels it is defenseless, finally feels secure, safe and loved. But soon the phase of criticism sets in. Then the partners are devalued and constantly criticized.
The narcissist’s own plans are always more important than spending time together. Facts are twisted until you yourself no longer know what is true and what is not. As a highly sensitive person, all this costs a lot of energy and is often unbearable. As a highly sensitive person you should know the indicators that help to unmask energy vampires.
First, after a meeting or a phone call with a person there is a feeling as if all energy is drained from the body, you feel exhausted. Second, one feels uncomfortable in the presence of a person, but does not know exactly why. Third, the energy vampire is lonely. This can be a sign that the environment has already recognized how exhausting the person is.
Today’ Conclusion: Many highly sensitive people feel the need to alleviate the problems of others
But an uncontrolled excess can cause one's own energy to dwindle to the point of complete exhaustion. So naturally, in this case highly sensitive people are unable to change life for the better, either for themselves or for others. Therefore, listen to your gut feeling: If you feel drained, anxious or pressured in the presence of a person, you are definitely dealing with an energy vampire. Protect yourself and put your own needs first. That's it for today.