THESE Are Things YOU Should Not Tolerate at All If You Want to Live a Respectful Life!
There are a few deal-breakers in living together that leave no room for negotiation. We are entitled to expect a minimum of decency and respect from our fellow human beings. Remember: People don't just get treated badly, they let it happen. Unfortunately, especially at the beginning of new relationships or friendships, we tend to want to please. Not all people handle this accommodation responsibly. Some just shamelessly take advantage of the fact that we would do almost anything for them. Here are 20 things you should never let happen under any circumstances.
1. Oppressive routine
There is a difference between a regular life and a lethally boring routine. Those who do not allow themselves and others any flexibility and who joylessly reel off every day according to a pattern deprive themselves of the chance to have incredible and beautiful experiences outside the rigid corset into which we force ourselves every day.
2. Attacks on your integrity and moral values
No person becomes a criminal from one moment to the next. This process is a gradual one. If you are robbed of your values bit by bit and are asked more and more often to deny your principles and to abandon all morals, in a certain sense you are being psychologically violated, which in addition will turn you into a rotten apple.
3. Wastefulness
Money, food, time, and any other resources. These are all things that we do not have in abundance. If someone wants to splurge on limited goods, that is his business. But be sure to take good care of everything that is important and sacred to you.
4. Sleep deprivation
Gambling on the PC all night long or dancing the night away in the club are certainly an experience as one-time exceptions. Binge-watching series or cramming all night for exams is also fine, as long as it stays within limits. However, make sure you get enough sleep overall. Sleep repairs our body and our psyche and ensures that we stay fit and healthy for longer.
5. Unhealthy diet
Critically examine any lifestyle, person, or job that denies you a regular meal at a sit-down table in peace and quiet. It has long ceased to be hip and trendy to not have time for proper nutrition. On the contrary. If you only consume fast food at more frequent intervals or late at night, you will become depressed, overweight and sick faster than you can say burger.
6. Poor personal hygiene
You shouldn't have to put up with it from other people, but you also shouldn't put up with it from yourself. Neglecting personal hygiene is an warning sign. Psychological stress, depression or burnout can be the cause here. If you are simply lazy, you are expecting more from your surroundings than you are willing to do.
7. Overindulgence and overconsumption
We can only enjoy the best things in life with moderation and purpose. As soon as excess and overindulgence take hold of us, we open all doors to unhealthy behaviors. Whether we throw money we don't have out the window, eat and drink excessively, or practice other forms of overindulgence, health is history and an addiction will develop sooner than you might think.
8. Stubbornness
With stubbornness, we build a prison for ourselves, where we banish our possibilities behind lock and key. Soon, however, no one will visit us in this prison, because rigid adherence to one's own infallible opinion drives all fellow human beings into flight. Open-mindedness wins, stubbornness loses.
9. Peer pressure
Ideally, we learn at school that just because there are many, the group is not automatically right. Whether it's alcohol, drugs, criminal or destructive behavior, the final decision to do or not to do something must always lie with ourselves.
10. Chaos
It is a misconception that people who live in chaos and generously spread it to other people's lives like a plague are among the geniuses among us. A messy life leads to inner turmoil and stress. The stress level thus automatically continually pummels you and becomes a veritable death vortex over which truly no one, not even a genius, has any control.
11. Negativity
Beware of sourpusses and constant complainers. They manage to spoil our mood in no time at all with their toxic comments and constant whining. Their pessimism is highly contagious and once it has taken root in us, it is difficult to get rid of.
12. Lack of communication
Whether professional or personal, anyone who refuses to talk and withholds important information from you does not see you as an equal. If you constantly have to guess or force every detail out of those around you, it's important to question these social bumbles.
13. Fear of change
We humans are creatures of habit, but life involves constant change. Without it, nothing can grow and we would always remain the same instead of developing to our full potential. Playing dead is an option only in the animal kingdom.
14. Passiveness
Those who constantly want to just simmer in their own pot and prefer not to ever leave the sofa are wasting their lives. Unless depression or other serious mental illnesses are the reason for this paralysis, doing nothing is not an acceptable way to appreciate the gift of life.
15. Debt
Spending more money than you have is not just a sign of poor organizational skills. It is a fundamental question of how we deal with resources and says a lot about our character. If a new partner is carrying around a mountain of debt, be careful. Owing money to other people is not a trivial offense. Only the banks are happy about it and you should deny this pleasure to yourself as often as possible.
16. Poor working conditions
Monday blues, wishing for Friday and in between it's all about enduring, persevering and gritting your teeth, if your work week looks like this and your days start with a stomach ache and end in tears, you need to take action.
17. Disrespectfulness
The golden rule applies here: treat others as you would like to be treated. And anyone who is insolent toward you does not deserve a place at your table.
18. Flings and affairs
Never allow a partner to cheat on you. Cheaters are serial offenders. If they do it once, they will do it again.
19. Dishonesty
If you tell a lie once, you won't be believed, and rightly so. Don't be fooled. If you catch a person in a lie once, that person is not trustworthy and should be treated with extreme caution.
20. Abusive relationships
Partners, friends, neighbors, family and work colleagues. We maintain a relationship with all of them. If we notice that this is not doing us any good, that it is draining us, hurting us and harming us, we have to end it. Self-preservation clearly takes precedence.
Today's Conclusion: Protect your boundaries
These 20 points are no-goes. There are no "maybes" here, no gray areas, and no exceptions to the iron rule that you must not tolerate them under any circumstances. It's about character traits that let us quickly see what makes a person tick. We can't be too careful in our choice of interactions. Not all people mean us well, and not all have the same high standards of morality and ethics that we do. If you allow someone to violate your boundaries even once, you set the standard for the future. That's it for today.