Warning Signs That Someone Is Not a Good Person

Not all people who cross our paths have good intentions in mind. Undoubtedly, most of them are concerned about their own advantage. But some would literally walk over dead bodies to get to their goal. You are either in their way or you have to pave the way for them as a useful helper. While we should not be afraid of every new contact, we should not pour out our hearts to strangers without reservation either. We would like to make it a little easier for you to assess your fellow human beings. The following 12 warning signs clearly indicate that a person is not a good one.

1. They maintain a relaxed relationship with the truth

Amazingly, throughout history, many major criminal cases have been solved by proving the perpetrators guilty of lesser crimes. They got tangled up in contradictions during interrogation and lied about quite banal things. Experienced profilers now know what has long since ceased to be a secret. If you don't take the truth about small things too seriously, you'll find it easy to tell bigger lies. If you discover that someone commits so-called white lies and untruths again and again, you should make the full conclusion: You either feel committed to the truth in its entirety or not at all.

2. Their private life remains a secret

Evil people are indeed eager to find out as much as possible about us, their potential victims. But they themselves always remain a mystery to us. They very cleverly evade questions about their private life, their leisure activities or their family and origins. If a resume has to be presented, it will be flawless. The bottom line, however, is that it could come from any other person. People who play their own sly game know exactly how to weed out weaknesses and provide as little surface for attack as possible.

3. You are chosen

Many manipulative people have extraordinary charisma that is second to none. They are very eloquent speakers and wrap their audience around their little finger in no time. Spontaneously, everyone wants to be friends with them and bask a little in their glow. Naturally, we are all the more delighted when we, of all people, are chosen for a particular project or a noble invitation. Manipulators master this tactic perfectly. They pick out a person who seems particularly useful to them from the broad masses and place him or her on a kind of invisible pedestal. This person can hardly believe his luck and drops all barriers of caution and distrust.

4. Everything you reveal is used against you

At the beginning of an acquaintance, cooperation or relationship, you will be asked many personal questions. You're naturally happy about the attention, because who wouldn't be? Unsuspectingly, you reveal all the information about your childhood, your career, your education and your family. Toxic contemporaries remember such important details, some even keep a record of them. At some point, unfortunately, there will come a point when you will wonder which of these details can be used to make a noose. But rest assured, that day will come.

5. They promise you the stars

The profound string pullers need you at the beginning of your acquaintance much more urgently than you need them. Be it at work or in private: for them, you are the interface with which their plan stands or falls. It is therefore only logical that they want to lure you in and get you on their side. At work, it's the prospect of concessions, your own office, more money or more responsibility. In your private life, you are given gifts and surprises. They really mean well with you, at least until the negative part of this strategy comes to fruition.

6. Knowing boundaries and not respecting them.

They grab your smartphone, rummage through your purse, show up at your door uninvited and mooch off of you to their heart's content. At work, your desk is suddenly declared public domain, your coffee cup is annexed, your tasks are completely overturned, and previously valid agreements are thrown out along with them. Bad people don't know boundaries.

7. Control over everything

Toxic contemporaries love to let the puppets dance. Unfortunately, this means us, who, if we are not careful, will soon be hanging on their invisible strings like willing puppets. In our private lives, they control your cell phone, your social media accounts, and quite often even your appearance and your whole manner. On the job, they suddenly pull out all the stops on employee surveillance and there's no such thing as privacy anymore.

8. Flattery and compliments are useful tools.

With a little life experience under our belt and common sense, it should be obvious to us. Those who want to hijack us with nice words have certain intentions in doing so. This tactic is as pathetic as it is easy to see through. Nevertheless, it is a popular strategy of manipulative people to enmesh people in compliments, praise and unctuous words. In fact, some of these dazzling grenades do not miss their target, and these few are enough.

9. They don't let anyone in on their plans

There is no real teamwork or eye-to-eye cooperation with evil people. They make their plans in secret and everyone else is presented with a fait accompli.

10. No apology

There is one word you will certainly never hear from these busy contemporaries: Sorry. An apology does not come over their lips for a very simple reason: They never feel guilty, have no sense of injustice and in most cases they have no conscience.

11. They manipulate their environment through and through

If the distribution of compliments and small attentions does not help, they sometimes threaten. Evil people only show this side of their true selves when there is no other way, but they have no inhibitions about it. They dazzle other groups of people with their charm and sociable nature. Superiors and important authorities are bombarded with artificially inflated presentations and reports, confusing statistics and sweeping, perfectly rehearsed speeches that cannot be surpassed in terms of self-conceit and self-praise.

12. One person, many faces

If you want to quickly find out what makes a person you don't know tick, take him or her out to dinner or to a bar. Observe exactly how he or she behaves toward the service staff and reacts to small mishaps. If you can, listen to them talk on the phone when they feel unobserved. You are allowed to be the eavesdropper on the wall for once, if it means you can expose the true face of a person you don't quite feel comfortable with.

Today’s Conclusion: better safe than sorry

New acquaintances are difficult to assess at first glance. Many people know how to show their best side in front of others. Their darker character traits and above all their dishonest intentions only come to light later. The balancing act between dignified caution and boundless mistrust when first getting to know someone must therefore be mastered somehow. Be alert when someone is being too good to you. Saints and philanthropists are few and far between in this world. That's it for today.