Things Mature Men NEVER Say!
Men tend to blurt out the truth. We all love it, the child in the man who now and then shows his mischievous face and makes us laugh. However, there is a fine line between a spontaneous sitcom that spices up a relationship every now and then, and an infantile attitude that should no longer be tolerated after the age of 30. This is especially true if we imagine a common future with our partner and the foundation of a family: we should be sure of his loyalty and mental maturity. There are worlds between being in touch with your inner child and an immature character. Before you risk sharing your world with a man who is more of an eternal adolescent than a perpetual partner, we have for you a quick test. The following seven utterances we present to you in this article better not come out of your chosen one’s mouth, if he’s a stable and mature character.
1. Let it go!
This answer often comes in variations, which is sometimes a more blunt "leave me alone" or a mysterious "it all works out," which men use as a kind of universally applicable adage all the time and everywhere. Common to all these utterances, however, is the core statement, "I want my peace, you're annoying me!" The problem with these responses is not so much the refusal to talk, emblazoned large and clear in neon letters between the lines; it is the disdain and cold shoulder shown to us women when we are verbally thwarted in this way. Here lurks the danger that only the words of 50% of the relationship must be recognized 100% of the time. Unfortunately, these sayings are often an unmistakable sign that the man no longer cares enough about the relationship to have a conversation.
2. If I wanted to hear your opinion, I'd ask you
This message is hard to beat in terms of disrespect and disdain. You don't have to be a psychologist to realize that neither love nor friendship have a place in the overall equation here. The opinion of the other is not only unwanted, it also seems to mean nothing. As a partner, you should only have to put up with such an exchange once – and then you’re gone. There is not much room for interpretation in such a saying. In addition to the coldness of this statement, there is also not a small potential for aggression in it. In short, this is not even the way to put a dog in its place nowadays. If the man is as immature as this message suggests, the most you can do is help him pack, which he is pretty sure he can't do, nevermind lead an adult relationship.
3. I can't help it
How old are we again? We should have been finished with this sentence in the sandbox. Of course, it's always the others' fault, and they themselves are completely free of error. Taking responsibility is clearly different. Whether it's a minor mishap or a major mishap, real men stand by their actions, even if they don’t find success. If you can't get adult life right, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Living with other people always means taking responsibility in a certain way. Anyone who is older than 25 should therefore outgrow the petulant child sooner rather than later.
4. It’s your fault
This would be the intensified form of the just mentioned point and also comes from the good old days in the sandbox. It’s not only childish and immature to always blame others, a life with such a person also has zero development potential. You can literally imagine in your mind how this man blames future joint children every time his tower of whatever just won't stay standing.
5. If you say so
This line is a polite paraphrase of, "I don't care." There may not yet be complete weariness going on here in terms of relationship work, but it doesn’t exactly show appreciation for one another. If it’s sometimes really exhausting to follow the mental leaps their partners make, men could still use dignified silence as an alternative – ridiculing the partner and her concerns is not the way.
6. So more drama today?
This also suggests that we are not being taken completely seriously for who we are. Words like "again" and "always" are, moreover, the opposite of any communication on equal footing. They generalize very intensely where one should actually see subtleties and differentiate in a conversation. If men think we women are exaggerating, we have obviously hit a sore spot. In relationships, we have a kind of sixth sense that lets us sense danger when it is imminent. Being labeled a drama queen is only meant to distract us from this mission and sow self-doubt. At least that's what most men do with it. For a short time, they use this tactic to slip into the role of the adult who has to calm down the hysterical little girl and bring her to her senses. A grown man wouldn't use this tactic, he wouldn't get into this predicament in the first place.
7. Let's discuss this another time
Here again lurks the supreme tactic of refusing to talk. Putting off unpleasant conversations is not only immature, but also pointless. Some things you can't avoid endlessly, especially difficult things. Needless to say, that other time will never happen. In any case, it would be a real pioneering achievement if this man were to stand before us three days later and now want to have this point discussed in detail of his own free will. Here we’ve entered the realm of fairy tales and legends or have woken up in a parallel universe. If you refuse to communicate in a partnership, you might as well throw yourself on the floor screaming and beating it with your hands and feet until Mom gives in.
Today’s Conclusion
Listen and learn and draw your conclusions. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, we women have a very strong tendency to see things through rose-colored glasses. We don't really perceive the new man at our side as he is, but as we would like him to be. This mechanism naturally suits nature and its constant agenda for the greatest possible reproduction rates. The gullible ones are unfortunately none other than we ourselves, if we find ourselves one day in one of the just mentioned conversational situations. If such dialogues are on the agenda, you will very soon have to settle for a monologue, not because you have drawn the consequences and left, but because the man is simply no longer interested in leading an adult relationship. You will no longer be his equal and desirable partner, but the woman he lives with, who cooks for him and does his laundry. However, he certainly won’t dump you for taking on that role. As we all know, it's best to stay with mom. That's it for today.