If ANYONE Does THIS, Let Them Go and Wave Them Off!

A harmonious, loving and equal relationship is what we all dream of. And actually, it should go without saying that both partners have equal rights and feel completely comfortable in the relationship. Unfortunately, in many relationships it happens that one partner constantly feels minimized, humiliated and emotionally devalued. This happens in a toxic relationship or when one partner exhibits narcissistic traits. In this article you’ll learn how to recognize if you are in such a relationship and how to find your way out of this unpleasant situation.

Let's start by asking the question: why do some people tend to make others feel small? In any case, you should know that it's not your doing. You are in no way bad or worthless, you do everything right, your partner however probably suffers from low self-esteem. People who constantly belittle and emotionally devalue others do so for one reason only: it's the only way they can hide and cover up their own shortcomings. Emotional devaluation is thus only a tactic to distract from one's own faults and inadequacies. People with small egos only feel good when they can suppress others. So what are some new ways you can recognize emotional devaluation?

1. Passive-aggressive behavior

A little disagreement can happen in the best relationships. However, it is important that couples maintain what is known as a culture of argument even during the argument. Constructive criticism is allowed, but should never go below the belt. Speak up when you disagree, but never forget to respect the other person. Passive-aggressive behavior is, for example, when your partner sits quietly across from you and simply doesn't talk to you. He refuses to give you an answer and leaves you alone with your feelings, suffering and pain. Maybe he provokes you with a satisfied grin and sits demonstratively in front of the TV. The partner locks you out of his life, maybe he talks to friends on the phone, laughs at their jokes and smiles at you from above. He makes you feel, even without words, that everyone else is more entertaining and funny than you.

2. Jealousy of everything and everyone.

Jealousy can be a bad thing, but the worst is when a partner is obviously jealous of you. Did you get a great new job? Instead of being happy with you and congratulating you, he just badmouths the job or makes you understand that you only got the job by chance. Instead of being proud of you, he just puts down everything you enjoy.

3. Absolute control

It's normal to agree and compromise in relationships. But in a toxic relationship, one partner always tries to have absolute control. Your partner dictates what you should wear, what you can eat, and how much exercise you must do. The partner tells you how to wear your hair and who you can spend your free time with. If the partner controls your entire life and does not accept your opinion, it is an unmistakable sign that you are in an emotionally devaluing relationship.

4. When criticism is the order of the day

We are all human, and humans make mistakes. But in a toxic relationship, it looks like all you do is make mistakes. Whether you toil for hours in the kitchen or get your partner a nice gift, he will never praise you for it or thank you. On the contrary, he criticizes everything and you feel small and bad. But your partner doesn't just criticize you at home in the privacy of his own home, he also tells his friends how badly you cook, how sloppy you are, and laughs with them when you fail at something again.

5. If the partner is vindictive

The best thing after an argument is reconciliation. But some people can't reconcile because they are simply resentful and don't want to forget. Maybe you had a fight? You apologized because it was clearly your fault. After that, the matter should have been settled, but months later your partner brings up the problem again. Again and again he brings up old stories and starts a new quarrel by rehashing old things.

6. When your partner makes fun of you

Laughing together is important in a relationship, and it's wonderful when you make your partner laugh. However, it’s nothing but sad and painful when your partner makes fun of you in front of strangers or friends. Then this can be true hell. Maybe in these situations you put on a good face and laugh along in front of the whole team, but inside you it looks different. You feel hurt and might cry the next time your partner embarrasses you in front of everyone and makes you look clumsy and makes everyone laugh at you.

7. When a partner has no compassion.

Maybe some days you're not doing so well, and you just long for a partner to understand and comfort you. But your partner doesn't understand your pain, he can't sympathize that you are sad because the cat died or because you lost your job. He just accuses you of getting unnecessarily attached. If your partner never wants to offer you a strong shoulder to lean on, then you have to realize that he’s not emotionally supportive.

8. When expectations are too high

Some people are just not ready for a relationship, usually they are still hanging on to an old relationship and idealizing their ex-partner. You are constantly being compared to that ex-partner and it seems you’re doing poorly. Your partner's expectations are just too high. He can't take you as you are, he just wants more. He expects you to live up to his ideal image of a partner. However, none of this is your fault, because you are the way you are and you shouldn’t bend or change for your partner.

9. When your opinion doesn’t count

Things always have to go according to your partner's wishes. No matter what you say or suggest, your ideas will always be portrayed as bad, stupid or unacceptable. Even if you want to give your partner good advice, they let you know that they didn't ask for your opinion.

Today’s Conclusion

If you’re not accepted, not appreciated and not loved in a relationship, then you should leave that relationship as soon as possible. This type of relationship will break you down emotionally. No matter how much you love and adore your partner, they will never show you true love, and most importantly, respect. If this is the case, look to move on. You too need to find a real partner who will love you just as you are. That's it for today.