Happy Ending Cancelled! If Someone Does These Things, Get Out!

A harmonious, loving and equal relationship is what we all dream of. And actually, it should go without saying that both partners have equal rights and feel completely comfortable in the relationship. Unfortunately, in many relationships it happens that one partner constantly feels small, humiliated and emotionally devalued. This is also referred to as toxic relationships or one partner exhibiting narcissistic traits. How to recognize if you are in such a relationship and how to get out of this unpleasant situation, you will learn in this article. 

Let's start by asking the question: why do some people tend to make others feel small? In any case, you should know that it's not you. You are not bad or worthless in any way. You do everything right, but your partner probably suffers from low self-esteem. People who constantly belittle and emotionally devalue others do so for one reason only. This is the only way to hide and cover up their own shortcomings. Emotional devaluation is thus only a tactic to distract from one's own mistakes and shortcomings. People with small egos only feel good when they can suppress others. So what are 9 ways you can recognize emotional type judgments?

1. Passive-aggressive behavior

A little disagreement can happen in the best relationships. However, it is important that couples maintain what is called an argument culture even during the argument. Constructive criticism is also allowed, but should never go below the belt. Speak up when you disagree, but never forget to respect the other person. Passive-aggressive behavior is, for example, when your partner sits quietly across from you and simply doesn't talk to you. They refuse to give you an answer and leaves you alone with your feelings, suffering and pain. Maybe they provoke you with a satisfied grin and sits demonstratively in front of the television. The partner locks themselves out of their life. Maybe they talk to friends on the phone, laugh at their jokes and smile at you from above. They make you feel, even without words, that everyone else is more entertaining and funny than you.

2. Jealous of everything and everyone

Jealousy can be a bad thing. But the worst is when your partner is obviously jealous of you. Did you get a great new job? Instead of being happy with you and congratulating you, they just badmouth the job or makes you feel that you only got the job by chance. Instead of being proud of you, they just make you feel bad about everything you enjoy.

3. Absolute control

It's normal to agree and compromise in relationships. But in a toxic relationship, one partner always tries to have absolute control. Your partner dictates what you should wear, what you can eat, and how much you should exercise. The partner tells you how to wear your hair and who you can spend your free time with. If the partner controls your entire life and does not accept your opinion, it is an unmistakable sign that you are in an emotionally devaluing relationship.

4. When criticism is the order of the day

We are all human and humans make mistakes. But in a toxic relationship, it looks like all you do is make mistakes. Whether you toil for hours in the kitchen or get your partner a nice gift, they will never praise you for it or thank you profusely. On the contrary, they criticize everything and you feel small and bad. Your partner does not only criticize you at home, but also tells his friends how badly you cook, how sloppy you are and laughs with them when you fail again.

5. When your partner is resentful

The most beautiful thing after a quarrel is reconciliation. But some people can't reconcile because they are just resentful and don't want to forget. Maybe you had a fight? You apologized because it was clearly your fault. After that, things should be over. But months later, your partner brings up the problem again. Again and again they bring up old stories and starts a new quarrel by rehashing old things.

6. When your partner makes fun of you

Laughing together is important in a relationship, and it's wonderful when you make your partner laugh. However, it is absolutely sad and painful when your partner laughs at you. If they make fun of you in front of strangers or friends, this can be true hell. You may even put up a good face in these situations and laugh along in front of the assembled crowd. Inside you, however, it's a different story. You feel hurt and might cry when your partner again embarrasses you in front of everyone and makes you look clumsy and everyone laughs at you.

7. When a partner has no compassion

Maybe some days you're not doing so well and you're just longing for a partner who understands and comforts you. Your partner, however, doesn't understand your pain. They can't sympathize that you are sad because your cat died or because you lost your job. They just accuse you of getting into something unnecessarily. If your partner never wants to offer you a strong shoulder to lean on, then you realize that he is not emotionally supportive.

8. When expectations are too high

Some people are just not ready for a relationship. Usually they are still attached to an old relationship and idealize the ex-partner. You are now constantly being compared to this ex-partner, and you are doing poorly. Your partner's expectations are simply too high. They can't take you as you are. They simply want more. They expect you to live up to their ideal image of a partner. However, it is not your fault, because you are the way you are and you should not bend or change yourself for your partner.

9. When your opinion does not count

Always have to go according to your partner's wishes. No matter what you say or suggest, your ideas will always be made out to be bad, stupid or unacceptable. Even if you want to give your partner good advice because you obviously see that this would be better for them, they just let you know that they didn't ask for your opinion.

Today's Conclusion

If you are not accepted, not appreciated and not loved in a relationship, then you should leave that relationship as soon as possible. These types of relationships will break you down emotionally. No matter how much you love and adore your partner, they will never show you the same love and most importantly, respect. This is why you should look for a way out. You too will find the right partner for you who will take and love you just as you are. That's it for today.