11 Important Reasons to Rid Someone From Your Life!

Forgiving and forgetting are beautiful virtues that crown the interpersonal sphere a success story. Those who practice tolerance and understanding have more joy and more friends in life. But some people don't seem to take that give and take too seriously. Some actually do unforgivable things. We'd like to introduce you to 11 of these no-gos of interpersonal interaction in this article.

1. Your good reputation suffers

Are there friends or acquaintances, maybe even a partner in your life, who constantly embarrasses you and gets you into trouble? Do they sully your name with neighbors, colleagues or even superiors? Do they do everything in their power to drag your impeccable reputation through the mud? For some people, badmouthing others and putting them in distress is just a ton of fun. Remove them from your life sooner rather than later, or you won't have one.

2. All they want is money

There is an unwritten law in interpersonal relationships that should never be violated. Don’t lend money to good friends. From the moment a person asks a friend or acquaintance for money, your answer must be no – not just to the noble donation, but to this relationship. We are not the ATMs for our social environment. After all, once we have this reputation, there are no boundaries. Money and friendship or love must remain separate realms.

3. Lies are the order of the day

The most important basis in the interpersonal sphere is trust. We normally believe what the people around us tell us. However, if we come across lies more and more often, we have to pull the emergency brake. It doesn't matter much at all in which matter people choose to tell the untruth. Little fibs and white lies only open the doors for epic tall tales that no longer contain a grain of credibility.

4. You’re codependent

Forming a close bond with someone can be beautiful and inspiring, romantic and very fulfilling. A harmonious partnership is similar to a cozy warm coat in winter. However, relationships become problematic when this coat mutates into a straitjacket. When one can no longer be without the other, we no longer speak of love, but of co-dependence, and this term leaves nothing to be desired in terms of clarity. We are dependent on each other, like two shipwrecked people in a lifeboat, and our everyday life together is similarly relaxed and satisfying. If you notice that someone is clinging and cutting off your breath and the joy of life, cut these bonds.

5. They endanger your physical or mental health.

"Man is man's wolf". This quote by the Roman poet Plautus doesn't make our species look good, but unfortunately it’s the naked truth. For some reason, we are a thorn in the side of some partners or friends, work colleagues and superiors. They consider us a threat or potential competition. They shy away from an open fight, so they play with hidden cards. The range of possible strategies to harm us physically and mentally is quite impressive. Your only chance to win this game against such power mongers is not to play. Cap that connection, turn around, and walk away. You owe it to yourself.

6. They encourage your bad habits

Do you love fast food, a glass or two at the end of the day, and high-stakes gambling on your PC? You like to let work slide and what's going on in your bank account doesn't interest you at all. We all have unhealthy tendencies that other people can reinforce or cushion. According to the English proverb "Your vibe attracts your tribe", the vibes we send out attract the corresponding people. If we already have a tendency to be unreasonable and go overboard on occasion, we should urgently stay away from people who encourage or even actively support this behavior. They do not have our best interests in mind at all, but theirs. Or they just like to watch others fall into the abyss.

7. Their true colors are frightening

From American writer Maya Angelou, the famous quote has come down to us "If someone shows you their true colors, believe them." In real life and in everyday relationships, however, we often have a strong tendency to gloss over these dark sides of a personality. We console ourselves with cheap excuses like "It was just oncer" or "He's under a lot of stress right now and definitely didn't mean it." We should believe what people say to our faces and not make up excuses for them for their bad behavior as well. Even if the dark traits don't apply to you at the moment, the time will come when the wind will shift and you will be in the line of fire.

8. You’re meant to fix everything for them

If you booked friendship or love, but instead you get to act as a free full-service employee, you should immediately return the goods you ordered or send them out the window. Incredibly many people think only of their own advantage when it comes to interpersonal relationships. They degrade partners to financial investors who are supposed to pay for their livelihood, be nurses and therapists, chauffeurs or technical-support staff.

9. The victim role is the only one they can master

When you are dealing with a lifetime victim, you’ll determine this quite quickly, probably already at the first meeting. Such people are never interested in others. They only want to tell their stories of suffering. You could just as well be a chimpanzee or a songbird. The main thing is an audience. You have no future with such people. You will spend every free minute of your life listening to breaking news from the vale of tears and the wailing wall. Such people are energy vampires who will not give you back any of your precious lifeblood that they suck out of you.

10. They attack your family and friends.

An absolute no-go in a partnership or new acquaintance is badmouthing your family and circle of friends. These two areas are sacrosanct and should not even be poked fun at or verbally disparaged. If someone does not respect your family and friends, he does not respect you. Your friends are your closest and most important social environment. Don't let anyone think they can take the liberty of badmouthing you or deliberately harming them.

11. They constantly put you in danger

This point follows on from the one about bad habits. Only that here danger is deliberately drawn into your life, for example, by forcing you into risky driving maneuvers, trying to force insane dares on you, or inciting you to chaotic or perhaps even illegal undertakings.

Today’s Conclusion: Resist the devil

Unfortunately, the devil is not only in the details, but also in some other people. They consider us as a free self-service store or entertainment center and exploit us shamelessly. There are deal breakers in life and we can recognize them instinctively. Some people are not worth compromising. Their behavior speaks volumes. That's it for today.