WHY YOU Should Never Be Friends With These People!
We meet many people throughout our lives. Each one leaves us a little wiser, though not all for the same reason. There are the healers, the lovers, the friends and the teachers, but there are also the destroyers. These often enter our lives as quite harmless, to begin with. After they are done with us, however, all that is left is rubble and ashes. The simple-sounding saying: "The hardest lessons of life are the most valuable" is unfortunately as sad as it is true. Of course, it would be wrong to approach every new acquaintance with suspicion. Not all people are up to evil or want to exploit us, our skills or connections for their own purposes. However, we would like to warn you urgently about 5 particularly poisonous types of the human beings. These "Big Five" have only one thing in mind: And it is definitely not your best interest.
1. The Energy Vampires
This sinister type doesn't go about its business in the dark of night, but it has a similar effect on our peace of mind as black Nosferatu has on our life expectancy. Toxic people who literally plunder others mentally and suck the lightheartedness and cheerfulness out of their life veins are no friends. They treat their environment like a kind of social "All You Can Eat Buffet" that is open 24 hours a day. They talk for hours about themselves and their problems, create artificial dramas, and are masters at turning any conversation back in their direction within seconds. After a conversation with them, we feel as empty and exhausted as if we had climbed a peak in a storm or run a marathon in the worst possible conditions. These people don't want friends, they need an audience. Without an audience to provide them with the stage for their dramatic performances, they wouldn't be who they are. And this is where the key to dealing with energy vampires lies. To stay out of their way as far as possible. If they still manage to ambush us or suddenly appear uninvited at our door, we have every right to be rude. After all, they are!
2. The eternally critical
Some people seem to have received a kind of general power of attorney from the highest authority, which allows them to judge others without restriction. You could also call it the license to criticize. Conversely, since we unfortunately do not have the license to do away with such nagging people, even if they do their utmost to get us this far, we have to deal with them in other ways. Constant nagging and unsolicited proclamation of personal, highly subjective and fundamentally negative opinions should not be expected of anyone. Unfortunately, the right of free speech applies here, and we can't do much about the self-appointed know-it-alls. Even if their begrudging comments feel like countless little pinpricks every day, we have to stop them from permanently damaging our ego and pushing our self-control to the brink. There are a few sovereign ways to deal with these toxic specimens. Ignoring them would be the best, of course, but that is not always possible. The worst choice would certainly be to show these toxic specimens how much their messages offend us. Then they will feel even more encouraged in their diabolical activities and will blithely continue to badmouth and belittle us.
3. Those who abuse you as cheap entertainment
Yes, they also exist in the vast land of so-called friends. Everyone knows this type of person. If they are doing well and everything is going to their satisfaction, you never hear a word from them. They never ask how we are and never answer text messages or phone calls. This changes abruptly as soon as an unused window of time opens up in their lives that absolutely must be filled with social interaction. These appointments are then not suggested to us, they are formally imposed on us like an appointment with the boss or the tax office. And so it happens that these people actually think we will consider a training session at the gym or a coffee at a place of their choice at 09:00 sharp on Friday in 2 weeks. They treat us like cheap employees or chess pieces that they can move from A to B at will at any time. What these people don't realize is that each person has a life of their own and no one person is the entertainer or entertainers for others. Such behavior, which takes friendship on call for granted, is disrespectful and toxic to the power of ten. You are not a delivery service offering ego care around the clock. No human being should be considered a rebound service.
4. The gossip addicts
People are known by their actions, but also by their words. We automatically like better those who speak less and, above all, don't say anything bad about absent third parties. One group of super toxic fellow human beings are the passionate gossipers. Yes, unfortunately, you really have to call them that and you are allowed to be accordingly harsh with them. To prepare rumors, gossip and half-truths about others behind their backs is in many ways just pathetic, immoral and definitely does not show good character. Strictly speaking, gossip is an expression of schadenfreude. After all, we rarely carry good news of others, but it is almost exclusively about their misfortunes, setbacks or defeats. The good old small talk rule: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all," should always apply here. The good thing about this toxic type is that he outs himself and his attitude in no time.
5. The scroungers
They, too, are a species that will probably never be threatened with extinction. There are always people who sneak a fine and carefree life at the expense of others. They let themselves be invited on a whim, constantly forget their wallets and have no inhibitions about raiding the fridge at your house. They borrow clothes, jewelry, books and CDs without ever returning them. This type of friend is actually a highwayman and pirate and should be treated the same way by you. If you don't show such people boundaries from the beginning, they know no inhibitions. The only thing that really helps here is to consistently and literally lock them out of your own life. Friendship is clearly different and, above all, not a one-way street.
Today’s Conclusion: Poison without antidote
Toxic people are a dime a dozen. If you want to, you are welcome to do some research into the causes. However, they don’t, they don’t waste one thought on their environment. They suck us dry psychologically and emotionally, trample on our feelings and our self-esteem and take advantage of us at all costs. They spread false news about us and rejoice behind our backs, laughing about it, when we are doing badly, when we suffer or fail. Toxic people do not have a guilty conscience. Therefore, there is no point at all in appealing to their humanity or their intellect. The only way to win against them is not to play. That's it for today.