Not As Good as They Look – A Guide to Superficial People!
More appearance than reality. Superficial people usually expose themselves quite quickly. In conversation with them, reasonably sensitive people discover that beneath the appealing surface there is not much worth looking for. A narrow-minded world view, shallow arguments and an exclusively one-dimensional view of things are easy to see through. However, some superficial people know how to cheat their way through a conversation without making a completely fatal impression right away. Especially when they have certain goals in mind, superficial people can feign personality where there is none, and do so successfully over a long period of time. Let's take a look behind the scenes: You can recognize the less profound among your peers by the following characteristics.
1. Your intuition knows immediately.
Our best fighting force in the social arena, our intuition, exposes shallow people in an instant. A few meaningless words or empty sentences are enough to do the trick.
2. They stab you in the back.
For social advancement, money, power or their reputation, superficial people would sell out their grandmother – no one is safe from their ambition. So better be on guard and stay under cover.
3. Gossip is their passion.
If you don't have anything nice or constructive to say, better not say anything at all. Unfortunately, the shallow among us don't know this principle; they literally feast on poisonous gossip. No one is spared.
4. Their appearance is extremely important to them.
The more perfectly and painstakingly someone has to work on their facade, the less attractive it’s likely to look behind it. Those who invest above-average amounts of money, time and artistry in makeup, hairstyling and clothing accordingly have a lot to conceal.
5. They like to be the center of attention.
Every conversation revolves around them, every conversation is steered in their direction within seconds. There’s no subject that passes by them without their expressing an unqualified opinion.
6. Social climbing is how they get ahead.
Those who use other people to climb the social ladder are not only calculating and devious, they place a much higher value on appearances than they do on integrity and honest intentions.
7. They make unwarranted claims.
The great writer Mark Twain once wrote, "The world owes us nothing, it was here first." However, superficial people see themselves as the navel of the world and it is forever in their debt.
8. Doubtful compliments are on the agenda.
Not many people manage to formulate a compliment in such a way that we still feel queasy about it days later. However, dazzlers in particular are masters at wrapping up an insult prettily and with a bow in such a way that the true content only becomes apparent at second or third glance.
9. they keep turning you down.
"Unfortunately, no," is the answer you most often have to expect from superficial contemporaries. They never put themselves at the service of others. Helpfulness or loyalty are completely unknown to them.
10. They know no gratitude.
Superficial characters never recognize the true value of things, they always see only what they want and do not yet possess, instead of letting themselves just once consider all the wonderful things that have already been bestowed upon them.
11. Truth and facts are often distorted.
Those who are not really good at anything have to gloss over reality and subject their own existence to ongoing cosmetic corrections. This inevitably leads to no longer being quite so accurate with the facts.
12. Judgments about others are made rashly.
One of the best characteristics of superficial people is their constant tendency toward merciless, scathing criticism. This is because it enables us to catch them out very quickly and very clearly and to get away in time before their poisonous darts also hit us.
13. They don't exactly impress with their intelligence.
Another nice trait that makes it easy for us to reliably recognize them as superficial self-promoters is their lack of intelligence. In conversation, they manage lukewarm small talk at most. As far as political contexts or other facts are concerned, they will soon show their true colors.
14. Their heart is set on material things.
Luxury villas, fast cars, expensive jewelry and only the best of the best, that's how the life of the superficial looks in their dreams. For the realization they risk not rarely a debt mountain without end. But even their immoderate spending in all aspects of life is only a facade, because in truth most of these precious items belong to the bank.
15. Expensive brand-name and designer clothes rule.
Anyone with an eye for clothes and fashion can spot Miss and Mister Superficial from a distance. Well-known designers wrap their appearance from head to toe. A sinfully expensive handbag, jewelry and wristwatches from traditional Swiss family businesses complete the picture.
16. They don't listen.
Having a conversation with flat personalities is about as useful as making conversation with the proverbial wall. If you have nothing to offer them that can move them up their freeloading path, they won't follow a syllable of conversation with you. Their eyes will constantly wander off into the distance, looking for objects that have more potential to offer for their purposes.
17. Their relationships are all about them.
As partners, superficial women and men alike are a nightmare. They have a strong tendency to choose submissive and reserved people as better halves who can adore them, idolize them, and provide them with the stage on a daily basis that the unfairness of life has so far denied them.
18. They have no backbone and no convictions.
Superficial people lack conviction for a couple reasons. For one thing, their limited minds prevent them from forming a mature opinion on a matter and then keeping it in mind. In addition, social climbing and a measured perspective rarely go hand-in-hand, as factors further up the social ladder set the pace rather than firm convictions, integrity and honest intentions.
Today’s Conclusion:
When masks fall. We all know this type of person. Most of the time, they spend only a limited amount of time with us average interesting people, because unfortunately we have absolutely nothing to offer them. At best, we serve as targets for their very special compliments and as a control group for their flawless looks. The good news is that if we have nothing to offer them, we have nothing to fear from them. It's different for people who are already pretty high up on the social ladder, have good political and social contacts, or have the one thing that superficial people love even more than themselves: Money. So if you can cross off connections, status, power and fortune, sit back and enjoy the show. The moment when the mask comes off will come sooner or later. Get yourself a front row seat and prepare a cutting, back-handed compliment. A little schadenfreude is allowed, especially if it’s honest and comes from the heart.