Beware! This Is Why You Should Never Trust These People!
We need interpersonal contact for our psychological well-being. Some people get through life just fine with small doses, while others need daily interaction with as many like-minded people as possible. But our jobs, our children's school, our neighborhood and our normal everyday lives also mean that we have to meet a lot of people, whether we like it or not. Friendly nods and polite manners certainly do no harm. However, you should not give away your trust lightly. Not everyone means well with you, rather they sometimes use information to their own advantage. In this article, we're going to introduce you to 7 types of people who you'd better be careful of and who you would do best to avoid getting too involved with.
1. The indiscreet
The highest level of alert is when people share a secret that they should actually keep under any circumstances. Anyone who crosses this line once will do so again and again. You should especially distance yourself from people who violate their professional or ethical confidentiality just to get attention. In the same category of "definitely not trustworthy" fall indiscretions concerning others' intimate and love lives, or their financial plight. As refreshing as harmless gossip can sometimes be, basically spreading rumors and gossiping about people who are absent and can neither justify nor defend themselves never shows good character.
2. The perpetual victims
They bathe in self-pity, tell the same sad stories over and over again, and are constantly on the lookout for an open ear for all the tragedies of their lives. In their universe, only others, society and circumstances are to blame. If you are looking for something like personal responsibility, you are searching in vain. This type of person is usually avoided quite automatically, because the constant whining and demonstrative suffering are unbearable. But there is another reason why these fellow human beings are toxic and untrustworthy. If you only give them an inch, soon they will take a mile. If the eternal victims see the chance to settle down in another life in order to lick their wounds and nurse their drama there in peace, you won't get rid of them again so quickly.
3. The control freaks
Unfortunately, we encounter them frequently, and hardly any area of our lives is spared from these dictators and know-it-alls. From the typical mother at a kindergarten or school, who wants to have every muffin crumb forensically analyzed before their offspring is allowed to eat it, to the fussy neighbors, annoying work colleagues and, of course, the bosses from hell. The need for control is not only destructive and deadly to any creative or friendly interaction. It also literally brings us to our knees, pushes us into a corner and takes away our freedom in our own lives. No human being has the right to do this, so if you feel overwhelming coercion, run away. You must not trust these individuals under any circumstances, because they do not shy away from using this as a means of pressure at the next best opportunity.
4. The competition addicts
Beware of the elbow wielders and the pathologically ambitious. They will literally walk over dead bodies to achieve their ambitious goals. To do so, they'll use any means, even things you've told them in confidence. It's hard to believe which inconspicuous details from our lives can sooner or later be misappropriated in order to pull the wool over our eyes. Be especially cautious with them. If someone is consumed by boundless ambition, they certainly won't respect the boundaries of others.
5. The unempathetic
In their presence, we usually feel spontaneously unsettled. They are constantly surrounded by a cool breeze that comes directly from their cold heart. Those who have no compassion and no understanding for their surroundings should by no means be considered trustworthy. This group of people also knows no moral boundaries and always sees only their own advantage. Besides, to be honest, who would want to be friends with people who don't have a spark of empathy for others? From there to schadenfreude is only a stone's throw. This type of person should not be allowed to get too close to you and your loved ones.
6. The overly nice
Actually, one might think that a "too nice" does not exist. But they would be wrong. If it seems too good to be true, it usually is. Whoever hugs you briskly every time, like a good old friend from days long gone, even if you hardly know each other, is playing a false game with you. Sugar-sweet posturing, exaggerated expressions of affection and sympathy are poorly dosed forms of manipulation. This demonstratively displayed exuberance of feigned feelings is only to throw sand in your eyes. Maybe you will be useful to this person someday and they are already preparing for it. The fact is, don't tell the gushy and over-motivated ones anything intimate or overly private. It could be used against you.
7. The fickle
You should probably trust the turncoats, who change their minds like their socks, the least of all. They are like thin ice that has become human and can give way at any time, dragging you down into the depths. If they are your friend today, they may be your sworn enemy tomorrow. You are never safe with the fickle, so do not trust them more than absolutely necessary. Otherwise, every detail of your life will be hawked to the highest bidder.
Today's Conclusion: Don't give away more information about yourself than absolutely necessary.
Of course, you shouldn't turn into a thoroughly misanthropic and closed-off person who stonewalls and doesn't let anyone into their life. But when in doubt, it's always better to be safe than sorry. Even if you think you are completely uninteresting, some people have no other hobby or pastime than spying on others and finding the Achilles heel in their existence. It sounds weird and is absolutely deplorable, but unfortunately it is the truth. Bullying and spreading the wildest rumors is the only life purpose for some people. Don't offer them a target and don't give them ammunition for their actions. That's it for today. Thanks very much and see you soon.