9 Underestimated Qualities That Make YOU Sexy

Attractiveness has many unknown sides. According to the latest scientific findings, anyone who used to think of the word sexy only in terms of short skirts or perfect make-up will have to rethink their position. This one little word describes so much more than just ephemeral appearances, which, moreover, vary with personal taste anyway.

Of course, a well-groomed appearance and a friendly demeanor help enormously to win sympathy points. But surprisingly, it is quite different qualities that make us irresistible in the truest sense of the word. We've summarized the nine traits that have the most magnetic appeal in this article.

1. Sexy is enjoying the moment

Being completely in the here and now, focusing fully on the other person and the shared conversation, makes us very attractive in the eyes of others. It seems to us as if we are only there for them and we forget the world around us. An added bonus: the Carpe Diem principle clearly includes festive celebrations, good moods and a cheerful atmosphere. Anyone who celebrates every moment of life as if it were the last beautiful thing on earth can't help but be sexy and attractive to others.

2. Attractive people know their worth

If you don't have to make your self-assessment dependent on compliments or the opinion of others, you're already halfway there on the road to attractiveness. Correctly assessing your own personal market value, not being shy about your talents and abilities, and remaining approachable and authentic definitely makes you irresistible.

3. The path is the goal

Thinking and acting in a results-oriented way is a good tactic in itself. But what's really sexy is when you shrug off a failure now and then, wipe the dust off your clothes and get back on the horse. If things don't go according to plan, no matter. This unshakable belief in oneself, never giving up, and focusing on the road ahead is evidence of strength, willpower, and optimism, but also a good dose of a carefree, good attitude.

These people represent a mix of characteristics that is definitely hard to resist. From the point of view of human evolution, by the way, they are clearly the winners, as far as the survival of the fittest is concerned, as Charles Darwin used to call this group.

4. They understand their partners

Understanding is always sexy. If there's room for it in a long-term partnership, it's even more so. After all, people who are convinced of themselves can more easily find understanding for others. For these people, giving will always be more important in relationships than taking. Accordingly, it makes us quite attractive to understand our partners on all interpersonal levels, the mental, the emotional, the spiritual and the physical, and over time to develop a kind of intuition for their needs and desires.

5. Action instead of reaction

Who would have thought active is the new sexy, but it's true. People who make things happen, who don't sit idly by and watch things go to the dogs or chaos take its course, have a very different effect on us than the passive types who can’t seem to see past their next meal delivery. Action instead of reaction is therefore the mantra of those who not only save the world, but also have an irresistible effect on their fellow human beings.

6. Don't be afraid to show your feelings

The really and truly sexy people show no tendency to drama and always remain self-assured, yet they do not keep their positive feelings to themselves. We can't help but be attracted to people who have pure joy written all over their faces. In addition, they spontaneously gain our trust because they appear genuine and authentic. All of these factors contribute significantly to the fact that these types of people slide up on our attractiveness scale without us even realizing it.

7. You decide about your own life

A clear focus on your own priorities can come across as selfish to those around you. Deep down, however, we find these people extremely interesting and would like to be a bit more like them. Those who freely decide where they want to be, where they want to live and with whom they want to surround themselves have a magnetic effect on others.

However, it will only ever be a hand-picked selection of people who are allowed to enter this inner circle. Self-confidence and a thoroughly self-determined lifestyle also mean making clear decisions about who is allowed into this life and who has to stay out. To be truly sexy, sometimes a “no” must be clearly communicated.

8. They’re not just obedient

It's not for nothing that wicked women and adventurous men are the subject of literature, music and entire operatic repertoires. The lives of well-adjusted and well-behaved people are rarely filmed as Hollywood movies, at least not very successfully. Sassiness also wins out when it comes to attractiveness.

We find people sexy when they go off the beaten track, like to test their limits and those of their fellow human beings, and sometimes go overboard. They take what they like and certainly don't think about tomorrow today. That's why we always find the bad boy and the frivolous heroine of everyday life more appealing than the textbook models of exemplary behavior.

9. They pull the strings

It's probably natural. Sexy people simply know how to skillfully wrap their fellow men around their fingers and keep their interest going. They consciously or unconsciously play the shy game or the independent macho, as this gives the impression of not being so easily had. This game sparks the hunting instinct in us and makes us all the more inflamed for these people, although the nice girl and the boy next door would be within reach.

Even in relationships with this sexy protagonist, you can no longer be quite sure whether the whole thing has a future or is just a cheerful pastime for your partner. The consequence of this is that you continue to make a huge effort and give everything so that your beloved doesn't move on to the next.

Today’s Conclusion

Self-confidence is the new sexy. What unites all the points just mentioned and is thus somewhat recognizable as a common thread: The real keyword in terms of sex appeal is self-confidence. Anyone who knows what he or she has to offer and can properly assess and evaluate his or her place in life doesn't need to bend over backwards to be well received by other people.

Some people have this attitude innately; they go through life with an enviable sense of self and would rather stay alone than settle just for the sake of company. Most of us need to learn the skill of self-love and self-respect. The good thing is that it is never too late to realize how fantastic we actually are. Once we can feel it, it won't be long before those around us begin to perceive us in a whole new light. A sexy appearance doesn't start in the mirror, but within ourselves. That's it for today.