Signs That You’re an Emotionally Intelligent Person!
Feelings can also be clever. We think with our heads and feel with our hearts. In between these two extremes, however, there is an impressive range of ways in which we can process impressions and emotions. A lot goes on in our unconscious, some of which we don't even notice. How we go about our daily lives and approach other people is a product of many factors. Our upbringing and role models from childhood and adolescence certainly play an important role, but at some point it is also due to our very personal life experience and the many, many encounters we experience over time. If we're lucky, we eventually develop what's called emotional intelligence. It combines the best of both worlds, heart and mind. The following signs clearly indicate that you benefit from this special gift.
1. You like to listen to others and are helpful.
Emotionally intelligent people always have a sympathetic ear and good advice ready to dole out. They are happy to make their problem-solving skills available to others without judging or crossing boundaries. In addition, they are always careful about discretion and would never pass on anything entrusted to them for their ears only.
2. Your personal development is important to you.
Emotional intelligence means being critical of yourself and your existing abilities. People with this gift know that growth and development in life are never complete. They learn new things every day and are eager to give themselves unprecedented new challenges.
3. You are very familiar with your strengths and weaknesses.
This kind of knowledge also signals emotional intelligence. Anyone who realizes that they know nothing has already taken an important first step in this direction. Also, nobody is perfect, yet only very few people would admit this about themselves openly.
4. You draw your motivation from within.
Individuals who enjoy high emotional intelligence do not need any praise, compliments or external encouragement. For them, the most important and strongest source of motivation lies within them. No one will believe in us until we believe in ourselves. In addition, recognition from the outside is always linked to external expectations. Our reason to get up in the morning needs to come from within. We cannot expect this to come from anyone else.
5. You listen to your intuition.
If you don't just think with your head, but also with your heart and soul, you have a clear advantage in life. Over time, our inner voice grows into a valuable advisor that never lets us down. The more we listen to it and the more we trust in it, the stronger this sixth sense becomes. Anyone who can unreservedly rely on their gut feeling has successfully completed the balancing act between heart and mind.
6. Mood is important, especially yours.
Emotionally intelligent people are not automatically happier or more relaxed than others. They just place a lot more value on the energy they put out into the world. Often more than those around them, they are well aware of the effect that an individual's mood can have.
7. You make an effort to understand those around you.
Every person has the right to their own opinion and individual view. Those blessed with high emotional intelligence accept all opinions and, above all, do not force their own opinions on anyone else. After a certain age, it should be obvious that people act the way they do for a reason. The motives may not always be obvious to us, but of course, that doesn't mean there aren't any.
8. You try to address problems as directly as possible.
Keeping silent in the face of a disagreement usually causes a small problem to spiral out of control. It certainly won’t vanish into thin air just because it’s kept quiet. Those with high emotional intelligence have already learned this lesson and, where possible, try to live by it. No one is good at broaching uncomfortable topics. But underlying grievances can persist for a long time and permanently disrupt good relations.
9. You know that everyone has their own problems to deal with.
Appearances can be deceiving when dealing with one another. We are often quick to judge people and form an impression of them. In fact, very few people allow us a glimpse into their real lives or show their true selves. The emotionally intelligent realize that no one experiences only happiness and light-heartedness. We often find it difficult to be kind to people who spread bad vibes and only seem to show negativity. This is where the proverb for the emotionally intelligent comes in: “Be kind to the difficult people, they need it the most.”
10. You hate gossip.
Spraying verbal poison and taking glee at the misfortunes of others is not your business. You know it's not right to talk about other people behind their backs. It's a nasty habit that reveals more about you than anyone else.
11. You need phases of rest in between.
Those who are always there for everyone else have to withdraw from time to time and seek solitude. Emotionally intelligent people are not only concerned with what’s going on around them at that particular moment. They often think long and hard about the encounters they have and try to find solutions to problems which have been brought to their attention.
12. Your life takes place in the here and now.
Mindfulness and enjoying life in the moment are extremely important to emotionally intelligent individuals. They draw some of their strength from this and try, if possible, never to do more than one thing at the same time. If you want to respect others, you have to start with yourself. Also, every moment that passes is a moment we won’t get back. So if you look at the gift of life through the eyes of emotionally intelligent people, you will want to enjoy every second of it.
13. You are sensitive.
You really can't accuse emotionally intelligent people of a lack of sensitivity. They have exceptionally fine senses when it comes to their fellow human beings and the different situations we find ourselves in. Due to their heightened intuition, it is easy for them to read the room relatively quickly.
14. You are fascinated by other people's lives.
It is actually self-explanatory that those who have a positive and open approach to their surroundings are interested in them. Emotionally intelligent people find different lifestyles exciting. This can apply to those immediately around them as well as foreign cultures and customs that are completely unknown. If you love people, you want to know more about them.
Today’s Conclusion
It is better to feel intelligently than just think intelligently. The combination of all our human strengths makes us more well-rounded human beings. Emotionally intelligent people are good to have around because they always strive for the well-being of everyone. Reason and feeling do not have to be mutually exclusive. If they came together more often, this world would probably be a much better place. That's it for today. Thank you and see you soon.