WHY YOU Should Never Share THIS With Others!

Caution in dealing with the information we disclose about ourselves does not hurt in principle. There are enough people out there who don't mean us well to be careful. Some have even gone so far as to deliberately create a veritable collection of facts about us to use against us when necessary. Any information we divulge about ourselves can mutate into a boomerang in the wrong hands. This is not nice and does not speak well of mankind, but unfortunately corresponds to the life experience of many and therefore also to the facts. We don't have to go to the English, French or Japanese extreme, where certain topics are absolutely taboo in dialogue with each other, but some areas of your private life are better left private. We would like to introduce 9 of them to you in this article.

1. Your good works

The real philanthropists of this world remain anonymous all their lives. At most, after their death, generous wills make headlines and their charitable motives make the rounds publicly. Bragging about good deeds is like undoing them. Only the Pharisees, as a certain Jesus of Nazareth already taught us, show off their demonstrative generosity and fasting and pray so loudly that everyone notices. It is not for nothing that they come off so badly in the Bible and are still regarded as synonymous with hypocrites and people with dishonest intentions. Those who really want to do good put the focus precisely on this. As soon as the telling of it becomes the focus, the score on our karma balance sheet has shifted significantly and to our disadvantage, and quite rightly so.

2. Family issues

Washing dirty laundry in public was an absolute taboo even in the days of our grandparents and showed a lack of class. Even if our hearts are overflowing because things are very turbulent and unpleasant within the family at the moment, we should not declare these problems a topic of conversation with strangers. The family is something like a protected area: this is true from the inside, but also from the outside. All members have the right to privacy and the protection of their personal affairs. Apart from the fact that we will soon be shunned like the plague with such narratives; after all, no one wants to get caught between the fronts and, as we all know, it's a small world.

3. Our grudges against other people.

Sometimes circumstances simply require us to make a killing pit out of our hearts and not a format for a reality TV show. The "today I'll say anything" concept may be commercially successful, but from a human perspective, this "everybody gets theirs" tactic does not ennoble us in any way. We should be very careful what we blurt out about other people for several reasons. We can quickly get the word twisted around in our mouths and again the wise saying "What you say about someone else says more about you than about the other person” applies here.

4. Your income

Money is for good reason no good topic of conversation. Everyone thinks they earn too little. Hardly anyone thinks they are too generous with it. This circumstance leads to the fact that we are already prophylactically envious, when it comes to the incomes of others. Unfortunately, total transparency and openness are not the solution here either. The amount of our monthly salary will never fall on neutral ground. It is always far too low in the eye of the beholder. Only rarely would we earn appreciative glances with this information. Money is a private matter and for good reason.

5. Our weaknesses

Here you can gladly differentiate: Are they charming mishaps and small misfortunes that make you more likable and approachable, or are they real weaknesses that could be shamelessly used against you? If women freely admit to not being able to change tires in a social gathering, this will at best earn them a few more sympathy points and perhaps even appeal to the stronger sex's protective instinct. But what about real deficits? Should one really talk about a mountain of debt, a pronounced reading disability or the diagnosis of a serious illness? Unfortunately, we live in a time when compassion comes very far down the hierarchy of interpersonal emotions. Before that, unfortunately, we have to reckon with envy, resentment, competitiveness and schadenfreude. We would call these apocalyptic horsemen on the scene ourselves if we address our Achilles' heel.

6. Beliefs and religion

Consider how many wars have been and are still being waged around the world in the name of religions. A person's spiritual beliefs are his or her private business. It is not for nothing that questions about it are absolutely taboo in a job interview. Our beliefs are at least as intimate as our sexuality. Why? Because this subject leaves no room for compromise. Agnostics will never understand how you can believe in good spirits and strong powers that you can't see. Religious fanatics, on the other hand, will be happy with any means to go to war for their cause, even if only verbally and without real weapons.

7. Your fortune

Even if you’re bursting with pride because you finally paid off your condo all by yourself and made it your property, keep such things to yourself. Even the property from your grandparents that will one day be yours, the fancy car in your garage or your collection of paintings: all these valuables would attract envious people or maybe even worse contemporaries. Burglars and con artists get their information in a considerable part of the cases from their listeners themselves, who are only too happy to brag publicly about their wealth.

8. Goals and desires

It is a pity and hurts our souls, but very few people around us can really be sincerely happy for us and with us. Most would rather give us 100 counter-arguments for our plans than a single encouraging comment. Sometimes you could almost get the impression that we couldn't do a worse crime to our partners, friends, colleagues and other fellow human beings than to move on. Tell people about your plans and you get to know their true character. If you can do without this experience, keep your desires to yourself for as long as possible. You'll also save yourself the embarrassment if the plans fail and turn to dust.

9. Relationship problems

Last but not least, the same applies to relationship problems as to family matters. They should be handled discreetly and not proclaimed public domain. Among good friends, of course, one dilemma or another can be discussed. Many people are happy to feel that they are no longer all alone with their problems. But you really should be careful here and be very selective in choosing your conversation partners.

Today’s Conclusion: Don't trip yourself up.

Giving away information in real life can end up like the legendary opening of Pandora's box. You can't undo it and the damage is often enormous. Most of the time, our careless gossip only falls on our own heads, but collateral damage cannot be ruled out. Trust is good, but self-control and discretion are sometimes clearly the better choice. That's it for today.