How To Work Your Way to More SELF LOVE With Ease! (Life-Changing)
To love ourselves more—this is an appealing thought for all of us. We treat people we love more carefully, have more patience with them, and are more sympathetic to them. Imagine if you could feel that kind of love for yourself. You would also treat yourself better and actually help yourself to a happier life. But the path to self-love looks impossible for many. With the tips in this article, you'll get there with ease.
1. Focus on yourself
One of the biggest factors promoting low self-esteem is the tendency to constantly compare ourselves to others around us. Comparing ourselves to ourselves is sort of natural. But you won’t do yourself justice, because even though those around you may outperform you in some areas, you're ahead of them in others. You cannot be the best in everything. But you have personal qualities of which you can be proud.
2. Don't try to please everyone
Self-love also has to do with getting to know and appreciate yourself as you are. However, this doesn't work if you are always trying to please everyone. No matter what you do, someone will always be unhappy. And that's okay, everyone does not have to like you. In the end, it's not their opinion of you that matters, it's your own.
3. Allow yourself to make mistakes
We often expect ourselves to be as perfect as possible. But we can't actually succeed at everything, because mistakes are part of life— and that's a good thing. Even if they can cause disappointment at first, we learn many valuable lessons from them in the long run. If you dare to risk making mistakes, you give yourself the chance to grow.
4. Don't base your self-confidence on how you look
Beauty, as the saying goes, is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone is beautiful in their own way— including you. But it doesn't really matter, because your body isn't there to look good. It's there to allow you to experience all the wonderful things that life has to offer. What really matters is you, the person inside that body, and that is valuable no matter how it looks.
5. Let go of unhealthy relationships
Not everyone is self-reflective and aware of how they treat others. Having such people in your life can cost you a lot of energy. You may realize that a relationship feels toxic to you and you are losing way too much from it, as compared to what it gives you. Still, it's often hard to escape such a relationship because parting makes you think yourself unkind and selfish. But it's perfectly okay to protect yourself from those who are not good for you. And you can devote the newfound energy to the people who appreciate you more.
6. Learn to deal with your fears
When faced with fears, big or small, it's tempting to want to escape them. But what are fears, really? What is their function? Actually, they serve you well, because they are there to protect you. Therefore, listen to them instead of automatically suppressing them. They can teach you a lot about yourself and help you identify and handle problems in your life.
7. Trust your gut feelings
When it comes to decisions, we often doubt ourselves and look at what others would do. But you know yourself better than anyone else and you know what is good for you. So don't listen to the doubts in your head, but trust your gut feeling.
8. Take your chances
No matter what you want for your life, when an opportunity presents itself, seize it. Allow yourself to explore any new path that can bring you closer to your goal. While the moment may not feel right, or the step may seem too big, circumstances will never be perfect, so give yourself the chance to seize the moment to possibly achieve greatness.
9. Allow yourself to think of yourself first
This step on the path to self-love is particularly difficult for many people. Putting yourself first may feel to you like it's selfish. But a little healthy selfishness is actually not a bad thing. Because only when you care enough about yourself will you have the energy to be there for others as well.
10. Allow yourself to feel everything
This tip applies to pleasant emotions, but also those that may seem negative to you at first. They are all part of our lives, and they all deserve to be felt fully. Accept each emotion, and allow yourself to notice and explore it. In this way, you will learn a lot about yourself and become an observer of uncomfortable emotions instead of reacting too strongly to them and being overwhelmed by them.
11. Show the world your true self
Insecurity can tempt you to hide your views and personality from others. At the same time, this hiding leads to more insecurity and self-doubt. Break the vicious cycle by daring to be more yourself and be honest about what you think. It may feel strange at first, but it gets easier each time. Remember your opinion deserves to be heard.
12. Enjoy the little things
In everyday life, we quickly get lost in obligations and stress. This has a very negative effect on our well-being. Give yourself more joy in life by enjoying everything it has to offer. This doesn't always have to be something big. Even a sunny afternoon or a pleasant conversation, for example, can make you happier. Pay attention to these little things and be grateful for them.
13. Be good to yourself
Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend. Speak respectfully and favorably to yourself. Take time to do something good for yourself. Be proud of yourself and celebrate your successes, you deserve it.
Today’s Conclusion
Many of these tips will feel unnatural at first. You will still question yourself often and you will not always succeed in treating yourself with respect and love. But don't worry, the path to more self-love is not a straight line. Experiencing setbacks is normal and doesn't mean you won't make huge progress. Focus on your successes and how far you've come. You have overcome everything bad in your life so far and have come out stronger. One day you will look back upon every obstacle you’ve had to face in your quest for self-love, as just a part of your journey to your best and happiest self. That's it for today.