Do THIS and YOU Will Get EVERYTHING YOU Want!
Success has just two letters: "D-O." Wishes are a beautiful thing: we build our own fantasy world and live happily in it. Nevertheless, we do not deserve to be dissatisfied and only moderately happy with it. It is, probably, a good life, at least a better one than many people in the world can call their own. Nevertheless, unfulfilled longings slumber in all of us. Who would be surprised to hear we always have our eyes on goals yet to be achieved? If you find yourself here, we have good news for you in this article: it only takes four steps to make all your desires come true.
1. What do you really want?
This question is at the beginning of every transformation. It sounds simple and logical, but on closer inspection it’s not always so. For example, if your desire is "I want to be successful," there are a million variations of what that success might look like. The best thing to do is to sit down with pen and paper in a quiet hour or two and write down your wishes as clearly and precisely as possible. A criteria grid that is used in various disciplines in decision-making processes can be helpful here. Then there’s the "Smart Principle.” These five letters do not form the word smart for nothing, because it’s a way to define our goals quickly and with focus, but also check their attainability. For this, they must be Specific, Measurable, Attractive, Realistic and Scheduled. Specific means that, instead of "be successful," you define your goal much more precisely and concretely. For example, getting a promotion or a salary increase, making a long-cherished project come true, achieving an increase in sales, working for a certain company in a certain position, writing a book or becoming employee of the month. Success means something completely individual to each person. If you have other goals in mind, that's perfectly fine and you're absolutely on the right track. Goals and their implementation must be measurable, because otherwise we can never know when we have achieved them. Professionally this is a clear thing, privately it looks different. The boundaries sometimes become blurred here, so it is particularly important to formulate goals that focus on love or romance or one's own self-image as precisely as possible. A goal must be attractive in any case, otherwise it would not be a worthwhile goal. This is where the power lies in positive wording. If you have in mind that you would like to lose twenty pounds, this will initially be associated with sweat, deprivation, hunger and effort. If, instead, you set yourself the goal of a slimmer, more beautiful and all-around happier you with a guaranteed sense of well-being, this will look much more attractive in your mind's eye. Realistic goals are easier to achieve, more measurable, and more likely to be reviewed. In addition, this way we don't torpedo ourselves with them. If you want to lose 50 pounds in a month, for example, it’s not feasible even with a fasting diet. Nevertheless, we tend to overshoot the actual goal with unrealistic targets, because we can then give up and fool ourselves into thinking that we tried, but unfortunately it didn't work out. Never underestimate the power of self-sabotage, it is a cheap crony of our inner devil that wants to forcefully keep us in our comfort zone. A healthy pinch of realism can work wonders here and deal with excuses of all kinds once and for all. The “schedule” in this context stands for a deadline by which you want to have reached your goal. This is important because otherwise excuses will lurk and the necessary actions will be postponed indefinitely.
2. Create the person you want to be.
Visualizing, manifesting, and positive affirmation are the three most powerful tools at your disposal in fulfilling your desires. The more concrete and clear the image you bring to life of your future self in your mind's eye, the better. Think about every little detail. How you will look, how you will speak, how you will dress, who will congratulate you, applaud you and admire you. Feel what it's like to finally be you at your best. Think about what you could do with your new attitude about life and your new lifestyle. Maybe you can put your dream to work for a good cause. Those who are successful in their careers have better connections and a more profound network at their disposal. Why not use that to push your charity projects or do a little promotion for a dear friend's startup. Look very closely at the value you can add when you are at the destination of your desires. The bigger the win-win situations looms in your imagination for as many stakeholders as possible, the more likely you are to succeed in this endeavor.
3. Believe in yourself!
It’s normal and entirely human to doubt yourself. Rome, as we all know, was not built in a day. Neither will we be able to transform our goals and desires from our imagination to reality in the shortest possible time. When in doubt, always remember: anything we can imagine can become reality. It is up to our willpower and our perseverance. Don't let your inner critics and also those from outside shake your plans. Many people would like to keep you exactly where you are now. You may be of more use to them that way. Your potential is recognized, but their own interests are diametrically opposed to supporting you. Even if it sounds very radical, whoever is not for you at this important point in your life is against you. Even partners are not always edified when their better half wants to move forward. The fear of falling by the wayside or being traded in for a better model is just as strong a motivator here as envy, resentment and all the inconveniences that any major change brings.
4. Take the first step.
Whatever your goal and however big it may be, take the first step now. Planning a career change? Update your application materials, create a search profile in an online job board and mention your desire to upgrade to a circle of trusted friends. If you want to optimize yourself, find a guidebook in book form or on the Internet to help you mentally. If dieting is on the agenda, get rid of all the calorie bombs from your kitchen and break out the sneakers. Or whatever works: sit down and create a battle plan. After all, the biggest enemy on the road to a new life is one you shouldn't underestimate: yourself.
Our conclusion
Don't be your own worst enemy. We humans love the routine of our comfort zone and our habits. We abhor change of any kind for those reasons alone. Mostly, though, we know that the things worth fighting for are rarely easy to come by.