A Better SELF-IMAGE and More SELF CONFIDENCE in an Instance With THESE Simple Hacks
We dare you! Either you have self-confidence, or you don't – far too many people content themselves with this attitude. However, that's not entirely true. Basically, self-confidence is a talent. It slumbers in each and every one of us. What we make of it, however, is up to us. We can work on it and develop it just like any other gift. It requires practice, a little discipline, and of course some willpower. However, those who prefer to hide behind excuses and be the shy wallflower for life will miss out on many beautiful things in life. We don't all have to be born self-promoters. There are people who get through life quite well as introverts. The situation only becomes critical when we start to suffer from a lack of self-confidence. We can suffer disadvantages in our personal and professional lives and suffer one defeat after another because we simply can't manage to get out of our own way. But there's a remedy for that, too. In this article we have eleven effective tips for you for improving your self-confidence with a running start.
1. Hit pause on your inner critic.
Lack of self-confidence may have been instilled in us since childhood like other negative beliefs. Parents, siblings, teachers, or classmates may have fed your inner critic plenty of material at some point, which is why it can't stay silent now. Hit the pause button and let it fall silent.
2. Trust your intuition.
We can usually tell pretty quickly how we come across to other people. If someone approaches you with a friendly smile and open body language, trust your gut, it always leads you to do the right thing.
3. Before awareness comes acceptance
How are others supposed to like you if you don't like yourself? Try to make peace with yourself and accept yourself as you are. No one is perfect, so there is no point in chasing after false ideals here.
4. Don't take everything personally
It might be hard to believe, but very few of the things that happen to us in our everyday lives actually have anything to do with us as a person. No matter how much you get angry at some people's behavior and feel provoked or belittled by them, they typically don't know anything about you. Besides, every person you meet in everyday life has their baggage to carry. Financial, family and health problems are things that weigh so heavily on some that they lose their good manners. Their behavior toward you has nothing to do with you as a person.
5. Work on your appearance
This point is important, even though many people will dismiss it as superficial. We are, after all, visual creatures; first impressions are made in just a few seconds. It is unfair and holistically wrong, but more attractive people get the better jobs, the higher pay and the promotions. Privately, it's not much different here. We don't all have to live up to the social media ideal, but a well-groomed appearance is also an expression of respect for those around us. Make the most of yourself, and others will be able to recognize it. Added bonus: If you feel good about yourself, you'll carry those positive vibes to the outside world.
6. Practice poise
In addition to the purely aesthetic side of a well-groomed appearance, our posture plays an enormous role in self-confidence. If you walk through the door with shoulders back and with your head held high, you will be perceived very differently than someone who comes crawling along bent over and slouching, with shoulders drooping and head bowed like a turtle. Let your inner posture determine your outer posture.
7. Get tips from experts
There are now many good books and online platforms dedicated to self-help and coaching. Get some therapeutic help on board, it's never a bad idea.
8. Self-respect starts with respect for others
It's most interesting how our minds and emotional lives work. Namely, by speaking ill of others, we immediately damage our own self-esteem. We probably know that this attitude is not a nice one and it immediately manifests itself with a bad conscience and stagnant self-esteem. In addition, of course, the law of attraction rules here. Speak well and kindly about others, and goodness and kindness will come back to you.
9. Exercise as the ultimate secret weapon
Regular exercise has a positive effect on our body image. We build more muscle over time, which subsequently helps us have a more upright posture. On top of that, regular sweating cleanses our pores, which makes our skin glow. Moreover, little physical successes and overcoming our inner weakness contribute to the fact that we start to feel really good about ourselves by exercising regularly.
10. Celebrate your successes and document them
No one is completely unsuccessful. We have all overcome things and achieved victories that we may have just forgotten about. Sit down and write down everything you can be proud of in your life. No event is too small or insignificant not to be included on this list. Afterwards, hang it somewhere clearly visible where you will be reminded every day of how good you are.
11. Learn to appreciate criticism as valuable feedback
It’s the thorn in our flesh and has ended many hopeful careers before they began. Criticism skills are something we learn as children, or not. Of course, there is a world of difference between just being verbally blasted or scolded, and having someone give you constructive feedback about what was good or less good about our performance. Either way, make lemonade out of lemons and enjoy every sip of it. Free feedback of brutal honesty can only help you. How else are we supposed to recognize our own blind spots? Even if the feedback isn’t objectively put forward: We can certainly learn at least one lesson from these hasty words. Take advantage of this free training. Other people pay a lot of money for coaching and courses of all kinds, and the best thing about it is that at some point we reach a point where we simply knock down our critics, even the inner ones, and thus silence them forever. And remember: Nothing is a better weapon in dealing with begrudging people than rubbing our successes in their faces. It’s okay to feel a little Schadenfreude now and then.
Our conclusion
No more excuses! We humans are masters at finding excuses for all sorts of things. We could even make an Olympic discipline of it. We hide behind a lack of self-confidence in order not to have to leave our comfort zone, not to have to look further development in the face and not to question ourselves. In the same way that many people use "no talent" as an excuse for not having to follow their actual dreams, others cite their lack of standing in the social arena in order to lead a tranquil life in the comfort of their own homes. Both talent and self-confidence, however, are just excuses. The uncomfortable truth is that the path to any success is hard work.